when i was five my dad got in a bad car accident he was at work drinking and got on the road about 10 Mins before all of this happen he called and said he'll be home soon but never came and it still hurts to this day and its been nine years since his death so how do i go by dealing with his deathHow do you deal with a love ones death?
the best thing you can do is keep him in your thoughts. this may hurt you but think of all he fun you guys had and the good things about him.
it will hurt because he wont be there to laugh with you about them but it works trust me. when your down and thinking about him think of something he would do to make you feel better and it will help. keep him in your memories. when you see or hear things that remind you about him just think of how happy he is of you even if he ain't here with you. he's with you in Spirit. and just know that he is looking down at you watching you and goes with you ever where in Spirit.How do you deal with a love ones death?
The best thing you can do is keep him in your thoughts, try to remember all the good things about him and most importantly know that he loves you and is always around even though you cant see him.
Keep lots of pictures of him around, and make sure you celebrate his birthday, don't let his memory die.
Although tragic, his death probably saved lives of innocent people. If you believe he is better now than you can move on. I had a similar situation. I accept that while they were here they touched the lives of many.
Monday, December 12, 2011
I love my boyfriend so much and i can't imagine my life without him, but i'm so confused!?
Okay, here's the deal. I love my boyfriend so much. I would do anything for him. We've been together about 4 months, i'm 19 and he's 21 and we're both in college. This is the longest relationship i've ever had, actually probably my 1st REAL relationship. We just click so well together and i could see myself with him for the rest of my life. And i mean, i was the first one to say ';i love you'; and then he immediatly said it after and we both started crying. We are just so open with each other and we have a really healthy relationship. I just am really confused. i feel like my head won't let me be happy. This has happened many times in my life with practically everything that should be enjoyable for me, but i start thinking too much and feel screwed up in the head because i'm thinking this way. It's like an endless cycle that i don't know how to shake. Whenever we're together and things are wonderful and we're just like cuddling or something, i just can't stop thinking, ';do i really love him?';, or ';are we supposed to be together?';
And i even thought to myself, i would love to marry this guy someday. And i actually told him that. I said, '; would you marry me someday'; and he said, ';when the time comes';. Then i was like, ';yeah, it's not like i wanna get married tomorrow or anything, basically i just want you to know that i wanna spend the rest of my life with you. but i would love for you to be my husband.'; And then he said, ';i like the sound of that. I guess that would make you my wife then.'; So the point is, we are so happy together. But i just don't understand why i'm thinking these thoughts.
could it be that i feel like i shouldn't of said that, and maybe now i feel trapped? but i shouldn't feel trapped cuz i love him so much! I take anxiety medicine (like generic zoloft), but i don't know if i have depression or something else like that. My mom said maybe i should get cognitive therapy to control my thinking. but i just wanted to try this first and see what ya'll thought. Anyway, sorry this was so long, i just wanted to make sure i got my point across. lol.I love my boyfriend so much and i can't imagine my life without him, but i'm so confused!?
Since you say this if your first real relationship maybe you think this might be it but your feelings are not sure yet. Just give it more time and maybe your feelings will change over time once you have been together longer with him. You shouldn't let a relationship control your happiness. The only way you are happy is with yourself, not someone else making you happy. Sure a relationship fills some needs but you should be happy even without him.I love my boyfriend so much and i can't imagine my life without him, but i'm so confused!?
HI, I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN ... WERE ON THE SAME BOAT (SADLY). SO AS MUCH AS I WOULD LIKE TO HELP YOU I TOO HAVE BEEN GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING. I HOPE THINGS CHANGE , COZ FELLING THAT WAY CAN AND WILL RUIN OUR RELATIONSHIPS... JUST KNOW YOURE NOT THE ONLY ONE.
SORRY I WASNT OF ANY HELP. GOOD LUCK!Soiled Bed Sheets cover up a fungus toenail
And i even thought to myself, i would love to marry this guy someday. And i actually told him that. I said, '; would you marry me someday'; and he said, ';when the time comes';. Then i was like, ';yeah, it's not like i wanna get married tomorrow or anything, basically i just want you to know that i wanna spend the rest of my life with you. but i would love for you to be my husband.'; And then he said, ';i like the sound of that. I guess that would make you my wife then.'; So the point is, we are so happy together. But i just don't understand why i'm thinking these thoughts.
could it be that i feel like i shouldn't of said that, and maybe now i feel trapped? but i shouldn't feel trapped cuz i love him so much! I take anxiety medicine (like generic zoloft), but i don't know if i have depression or something else like that. My mom said maybe i should get cognitive therapy to control my thinking. but i just wanted to try this first and see what ya'll thought. Anyway, sorry this was so long, i just wanted to make sure i got my point across. lol.I love my boyfriend so much and i can't imagine my life without him, but i'm so confused!?
Since you say this if your first real relationship maybe you think this might be it but your feelings are not sure yet. Just give it more time and maybe your feelings will change over time once you have been together longer with him. You shouldn't let a relationship control your happiness. The only way you are happy is with yourself, not someone else making you happy. Sure a relationship fills some needs but you should be happy even without him.I love my boyfriend so much and i can't imagine my life without him, but i'm so confused!?
HI, I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN ... WERE ON THE SAME BOAT (SADLY). SO AS MUCH AS I WOULD LIKE TO HELP YOU I TOO HAVE BEEN GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING. I HOPE THINGS CHANGE , COZ FELLING THAT WAY CAN AND WILL RUIN OUR RELATIONSHIPS... JUST KNOW YOURE NOT THE ONLY ONE.
SORRY I WASNT OF ANY HELP. GOOD LUCK!
Love question!?
How do i deal with love? I like this guy in school but am afraid to ask him out, what should i do? then what if i do ask him out but HE doesn't feel the same for me?Love question!?
Sit down and talk to him.
You will not gain anything by hiding in the shadows.
Good luckLove question!?
Feel him out first don't out and out ask him. Strike up a casual conversation and go from there.
If that is true, say NEXT.
There will be other guys.
If he doesnt feel the same way at least you asked, and what if he does, then it could be the start of a relationship. I say go for it!
Well thats why with love or lust comes risks. You gotta take risks to get what you want otherwise you will never get what you want. Soo I say go for it you will do fine. Good luck
take care
Then it wan't meant to be. You never know love can happen anywhere.
i wouldn't ask him out. wait for him to come to you. if he isn't interested, he isn't worth your time.
kay first off, this ain`t love hun [= but it`s nice to know you like someonee. don`t just ask him out like asap that`s kinda freaky; no offense. get to know him ! you might not even like him once you talk to him. [= just be careful %26amp; know there`s more fish in the sea.` %26amp; don`t ask him out, he`ll ask you out if he feels the same way. [=
Go for it, honey! If you never ask him out you'll always wonder ';what if?'; And if he doesn't feel the same way as you do, then just chalk it up to learning and move on...it builds character.
You're answer is within your question.
You're still in school and think you love him, but you haven't even gone out with him? Just pay attention to education. These emotions will lead you down the wrong road. I would know. I'm 15.
Getting a boyfriend will not fill that gap in your life until you're actually ready to settle down. It is okay to crush, but I wouldn't recommend going out with anyone. Education comes before relationship so you can actually have some interests to talk about in the future.
Relationships at a young age will give you nothing but heart break and anxiety, while education offers you a well-paying job and a steady life.
just ask him out in a simple way and if he did not feel the same way dont let him see or feel that you are disappoint.be casual
Yeah I was having that convo w my ex bf today (were still good firends) and he wanted to ask someone out but had the fear of rejection so i just keep encouragng him
Ask him out. You'll never know otherwise, and you'll feel better with yourself trying.
ask that biach out
u should tell him u like him then start out as friends and let it flow, get to know him a lil better. if u go 2 quickly, he might get pressured, like its too sudden, u get?
just ask him
chill girl if he dont like u its ook ther was this i liked and i asked him out through a friend and he said no every time i didnt let it bother me and l8r i found out hes not the 1 4 me but if he does then u go girl but just ask him out k God bless
Maybe if you approached it totally from a ';casual';, friend -like type of thing. Like, instead of asking him out like how someone would ask someone out that they are interested in, approach it in a casual, conversational manner. Lets see if I can give you an example..... hmmmm.......Like you could start talking to him and ask if he's ever been ';to wherever'; and you could say something like, I havent, but I want to so bad and I was thinking about doing it soon... And then sometime later (that week, or so) you could have a casual conversation with him again, and this time, tell him that you are finally gonna go do this... and HEY, would he like to go with you since you don't really want to do it by yourself.... or something like that....
OK. Been there done that. Just talk to him and find out who he likes or if he has a girlfriend. Then just tell him you like him but since your afraid to you might want to do it over a holiday, through e-mail, text messaging, a note, etc. Anything were you don't have to look them in the eye and say it because that is really hard and awkward. But if he says no and he is your true friend then everything will be ok. Just do it because you don't want to regret not doing it.
Sit down and talk to him.
You will not gain anything by hiding in the shadows.
Good luckLove question!?
Feel him out first don't out and out ask him. Strike up a casual conversation and go from there.
If that is true, say NEXT.
There will be other guys.
If he doesnt feel the same way at least you asked, and what if he does, then it could be the start of a relationship. I say go for it!
Well thats why with love or lust comes risks. You gotta take risks to get what you want otherwise you will never get what you want. Soo I say go for it you will do fine. Good luck
take care
Then it wan't meant to be. You never know love can happen anywhere.
i wouldn't ask him out. wait for him to come to you. if he isn't interested, he isn't worth your time.
kay first off, this ain`t love hun [= but it`s nice to know you like someonee. don`t just ask him out like asap that`s kinda freaky; no offense. get to know him ! you might not even like him once you talk to him. [= just be careful %26amp; know there`s more fish in the sea.` %26amp; don`t ask him out, he`ll ask you out if he feels the same way. [=
Go for it, honey! If you never ask him out you'll always wonder ';what if?'; And if he doesn't feel the same way as you do, then just chalk it up to learning and move on...it builds character.
You're answer is within your question.
You're still in school and think you love him, but you haven't even gone out with him? Just pay attention to education. These emotions will lead you down the wrong road. I would know. I'm 15.
Getting a boyfriend will not fill that gap in your life until you're actually ready to settle down. It is okay to crush, but I wouldn't recommend going out with anyone. Education comes before relationship so you can actually have some interests to talk about in the future.
Relationships at a young age will give you nothing but heart break and anxiety, while education offers you a well-paying job and a steady life.
just ask him out in a simple way and if he did not feel the same way dont let him see or feel that you are disappoint.be casual
Yeah I was having that convo w my ex bf today (were still good firends) and he wanted to ask someone out but had the fear of rejection so i just keep encouragng him
Ask him out. You'll never know otherwise, and you'll feel better with yourself trying.
ask that biach out
u should tell him u like him then start out as friends and let it flow, get to know him a lil better. if u go 2 quickly, he might get pressured, like its too sudden, u get?
just ask him
chill girl if he dont like u its ook ther was this i liked and i asked him out through a friend and he said no every time i didnt let it bother me and l8r i found out hes not the 1 4 me but if he does then u go girl but just ask him out k God bless
Maybe if you approached it totally from a ';casual';, friend -like type of thing. Like, instead of asking him out like how someone would ask someone out that they are interested in, approach it in a casual, conversational manner. Lets see if I can give you an example..... hmmmm.......Like you could start talking to him and ask if he's ever been ';to wherever'; and you could say something like, I havent, but I want to so bad and I was thinking about doing it soon... And then sometime later (that week, or so) you could have a casual conversation with him again, and this time, tell him that you are finally gonna go do this... and HEY, would he like to go with you since you don't really want to do it by yourself.... or something like that....
OK. Been there done that. Just talk to him and find out who he likes or if he has a girlfriend. Then just tell him you like him but since your afraid to you might want to do it over a holiday, through e-mail, text messaging, a note, etc. Anything were you don't have to look them in the eye and say it because that is really hard and awkward. But if he says no and he is your true friend then everything will be ok. Just do it because you don't want to regret not doing it.
How to deal with a love situation..... please help so confused need opinions BAD !?
I have my ex who I love very much. We broke up a couple of months ago because we had too much going on in our lives to be together so we figured take time for ourselves before we ruin what we have, and get back togehter. we decided to not see other people, but time started to drag on and i wanted to get back together and he didnt want to yet, he still had too much going on to be able to give me what i needed. I recently started dating a new guy, it just kinda happened, who i also have feelings for. Now my ex wants to talk with me, if i still feel strongly about my ex and want to be with him, do i tell him about this other guy ive been dating ? and how do i tell this most recent guy if i do get back with my ex, i dont want to hurt anyone here. but im scared to loose my ex if i decide i want to get back with him and tell him about this other guy..... please helpHow to deal with a love situation..... please help so confused need opinions BAD !?
You dont have to be scared to lose anyone. Because if your ex leaves or your current bf leaves you its their lost. Its really hard to say can you see you and you ex going long term maybe more or the other guy. Not saying choose your ex, its something you have to think really hard an compare both. GL with this.How to deal with a love situation..... please help so confused need opinions BAD !?
sounds like you want the cake and be able to eat it too,you need to make a decision
Well I have figured out it is great to be honest and say what is on your mind the first time around. If you have feelings for your Ex you have to tell the guy you are with right away, otherwise you will be dealing with the guilt of wanting two ppl. It is difficult to see in the beginning but telling the truth is always right. Its better to get through it than to have feeling build up and have them broken up in the end. Be true to yourself and those you care for.
Of Course you tell him about this other guy -- he's the one that wasn't ready to get together- what , did he think you'd wait forever?? didn't happen!!!
Just be honest w/ your ex -- tell him there is somebody else -- and make sure he wants to be back together with you --- If you want to be with him -- be with him-- don't be playing 2 guys though.
don't keep dragging it on.
Hi there-
It seems from your email that you and your ex are probably in your early 20's or teens. There's a reason why people are ex'es and break up. You weren't very decriptive on why you broke up. If you both love one another so much, that doesn't seem like such a compeling reason to break up. ';Having too much going on in your lives';.
I would not mention you are dating someone else to your ex. This would only hurt him. I would say talk to your ex and really examine the relationship and see if it would make sense to try to see each other again or continue going your separate ways. Really examine why you broke up and look at the pros and cons. Hope this helps!
You dont have to be scared to lose anyone. Because if your ex leaves or your current bf leaves you its their lost. Its really hard to say can you see you and you ex going long term maybe more or the other guy. Not saying choose your ex, its something you have to think really hard an compare both. GL with this.How to deal with a love situation..... please help so confused need opinions BAD !?
sounds like you want the cake and be able to eat it too,you need to make a decision
Well I have figured out it is great to be honest and say what is on your mind the first time around. If you have feelings for your Ex you have to tell the guy you are with right away, otherwise you will be dealing with the guilt of wanting two ppl. It is difficult to see in the beginning but telling the truth is always right. Its better to get through it than to have feeling build up and have them broken up in the end. Be true to yourself and those you care for.
Of Course you tell him about this other guy -- he's the one that wasn't ready to get together- what , did he think you'd wait forever?? didn't happen!!!
Just be honest w/ your ex -- tell him there is somebody else -- and make sure he wants to be back together with you --- If you want to be with him -- be with him-- don't be playing 2 guys though.
don't keep dragging it on.
Hi there-
It seems from your email that you and your ex are probably in your early 20's or teens. There's a reason why people are ex'es and break up. You weren't very decriptive on why you broke up. If you both love one another so much, that doesn't seem like such a compeling reason to break up. ';Having too much going on in your lives';.
I would not mention you are dating someone else to your ex. This would only hurt him. I would say talk to your ex and really examine the relationship and see if it would make sense to try to see each other again or continue going your separate ways. Really examine why you broke up and look at the pros and cons. Hope this helps!
How do I announce my engagement to my disapproving father?
Well, to start off, my amazing boyfriend whom I love unconditionally has just proposed! I am so excited...but sadly I'm also feeling pretty anxious, because now we have to announce it. A few close family members and my best friend already know, and they support us 100%. HOWEVER---it's telling my parents that worries me...They have never had much faith in me, and when I say they, I mean my dad. He and I are pretty much always bashing heads, always arguing. You could say we bring out the worst in each other. He thinks I'm a foolish, manipulative child, and I think of him as a controlling, paranoid, very bitter old man...Harsh I know...But he just doesn't know how to deal with his children growing up. He has NO IDEA on how to communicate. If I talk calmly to him, he thinks I am mocking him. Worst thing is, is that he knows exactly what buttons to press to make me snap. It is extremely frustrating. My older sister went through the same thing when she moved out and got married. She always said that her relationship with our dad was like the Cold War. Mine however, is like Iraq. Never a moments peace. He also doesn't like my boyfriend at all. My boyfriend is in the Army, and my dad, who was an officer in the Navy for many years, immediately placed negative stereotypes on him...It's so ridiculous how those old military rivalries actually are taken seriously...
So I guess I'm back to my question: How do I tell them? How do I deal with my father? I'm worried that we won't be on speaking terms for several years. I'm worried that they won't help us at all with our wedding, and they'll be very poor sports, or that they won't come at all!!!
Oh, and please nothing about how if I'm terrified to tell my parents I'm not mature enough to get married---you would be terrified of my father too. He's scarier than the devil.How do I announce my engagement to my disapproving father?
Tell him in a note if you must but I would make the engagement short so that you don't have to deal with his bad mood for too long. It'll make it easier on your mom, too, I bet.
Plan with the intentions that your parents will not attend or help with the wedding. Then you won't be disappointed. Do make sure you record the wedding, take pictures of your dress, etc for your mom. It sounds like they have a domestic violence or other co-dependence - like relationship. I'd get myself into counseling to deal with the issues you have had to face living with them. There relationship does not seem healthy - dad is way too stern and mom is a pushover to maintain the peace.... not good.How do I announce my engagement to my disapproving father?
My father's old school Italian....do NOT tell me about scary parents! You just have to grow a backbone and spit it out! If you can't, you don't want to get married. Simple as that!
I understand problems in the parental relationship all too well. I had some anxiety over announcing the news as well, but was greatly relieved when it was out there.
So, the big question is, do you want to maintain a relationship with your parents or could you care less?
If you want to keep the relationship, marrying this guy isn't going to go over well at all. The news might ruin the relationship you have with your father. Be prepared. You will then be making the choice between your father and your partner, but remember who is forcing you to make that choice.
If you don't care to keep your father in your life, just tell him casually, seems the phone might be your best bet, and be prepared to handle any over-reactions. Don't defend yourself, don't justify your actions, just say ';I'm sorry you feel that way.'; and end the conversation with that.
I chose to tell my mom over the phone while she was working knowing with co-workers in earshot she would be less likely to say something rude or to try to bring me down and it worked, for the most part. She wasn't enthusiastic, but I never would have expected that much anyhow. Perhaps you could work out something similar to soften the blow, so to speak.
You don't mention your mother in this. Is she also opposed to your boyfriend? If not speak to her about it ... maybe she can offer some suggestions. But I wouldn't count on their help with a wedding or even their attending. And if he decides no to speak to you for years, well he's a childish person and it's his loss. I guess sailors are as wimpy as they say they are! LOL I'm just kidding. My husband was a Marine.
Why not just plan a small wedding? Or just go to the city hall. To me that would be less stressful than worrying about how a parent will act at a wedding!!
How can you get a military man to do anything, but you say he knows your weak spots, so suck it up old girl and make up your mind you will not let him push them. Just tell them flat outand don't act scared, present him with something already formed in cement. To what little knowledge a military man respects courage and would rather have you (excuse me) but spit right in his eye before cowering before him. And I bet your Mom in private has got his number down pat, he doesn't just want you to know it. He is after all under the uniform an all that sputter, just a man, just a father, and he may be having trouble losing you (and no man weill ever be food enouh for his child) Have fiance have his uniform on and, present a united front and tell fiance' to give
as good as he gets only nicely and I think---I am by no means an expert----father may take it better than you think, And what is the worst thing that could happen, so they get mad, your Mom would find a way to see you anyway. Be firm not arrogant when you tell them, like your minds or made up, don't ask, but you would like their approval but if not, let them know you are going to do it anyway. Be mature--he is just a man--he is used to command and old habits die hard. Again, if it were me and like I said, but if the man my daughter was going to marry came to us like a scared wimp, I wouldn't care for that. I had rather he say M. and Mrs . orJoe and Betty, Erin and I have decided to get married and we wanted you to be the first we told. Simple, keep it simple. And remember when you have children (if you want kids) he will be putty in your hands. Hope so anyway. May not be right just some observations. Good luck.But I do know if you present someone with something already settled and done and do not ask for help or t heir opinion it takes away the chance of giving them anything to say. Don't ask opinions. Just do.
I had to go through the same thing with my mom. The longer you wait, the greater the anxiety is, building up. Just do it. Its like jumping in a pool of cold water. The way I did it, I was pretty much just sitting around, I had been engaged for a few weeks and decided to snap out of my fears. My mom was in the bathroom doing her hair. I just went in there and held my hand out, with my ring on. She looked at it, looked away from me, gave me her usual speech, and it was over. She has accepted the fact that it is happening. Your dad actually sounds a lot scarier, but its still something you need to approach with confidence and assertiveness.
The devil isn't that scary, once you know how to deal with him.
He's only scary because you allow him to be.
If he knows what buttons to push, then 'cut the switch' on those buttons, like an electrician snipping a wire. You're right ... he knows exactly how to play you, so stop letting him.
Be different.
Stop cow-towing to him, and be less 'daddy's girl', if that's the usual role you play. Whatever you're doing, STOP it, and take a new approach.
He will never change, so you have to work within his limitations, and do a little changing yourself.
First, stop caving into him the minute he starts to growl.
Second, have as many family members around you when you tell them so that he might be less likely to spoil everyone's good time.
Also, in the next few days, why not prepare some facts and figures in black and white, print them out, and SHOW him why your guy is solid husband material. Give the regimented military man a detailed requisition for a husband, and show him all of the things that make your guy perfect for you: Salary potential, family pedigree, common interests, desire for children, no drinking or drug use (Gawd, I hope not), desire for stability ... whatever other ammo you can bring to this gunfight, bring it. Hit him with as much raw data as you can, and smile while he's reading it. Show no fear. Become stronger, and he will start respecting you. Right now, he doesn't.
My father was old-school Italian, so I know from stubborn. When you turn men like our dad's inside out, they only want for us to have a better life than they did, and they would walk through hot coals if we really needed something. They're softies inside ... somewhere. If you could find your dad's gooey cream-filled center, that might help, too.
Best of luck and thank your man for serving, and give him a *big hug* Congrats !!!
So I guess I'm back to my question: How do I tell them? How do I deal with my father? I'm worried that we won't be on speaking terms for several years. I'm worried that they won't help us at all with our wedding, and they'll be very poor sports, or that they won't come at all!!!
Oh, and please nothing about how if I'm terrified to tell my parents I'm not mature enough to get married---you would be terrified of my father too. He's scarier than the devil.How do I announce my engagement to my disapproving father?
Tell him in a note if you must but I would make the engagement short so that you don't have to deal with his bad mood for too long. It'll make it easier on your mom, too, I bet.
Plan with the intentions that your parents will not attend or help with the wedding. Then you won't be disappointed. Do make sure you record the wedding, take pictures of your dress, etc for your mom. It sounds like they have a domestic violence or other co-dependence - like relationship. I'd get myself into counseling to deal with the issues you have had to face living with them. There relationship does not seem healthy - dad is way too stern and mom is a pushover to maintain the peace.... not good.How do I announce my engagement to my disapproving father?
My father's old school Italian....do NOT tell me about scary parents! You just have to grow a backbone and spit it out! If you can't, you don't want to get married. Simple as that!
I understand problems in the parental relationship all too well. I had some anxiety over announcing the news as well, but was greatly relieved when it was out there.
So, the big question is, do you want to maintain a relationship with your parents or could you care less?
If you want to keep the relationship, marrying this guy isn't going to go over well at all. The news might ruin the relationship you have with your father. Be prepared. You will then be making the choice between your father and your partner, but remember who is forcing you to make that choice.
If you don't care to keep your father in your life, just tell him casually, seems the phone might be your best bet, and be prepared to handle any over-reactions. Don't defend yourself, don't justify your actions, just say ';I'm sorry you feel that way.'; and end the conversation with that.
I chose to tell my mom over the phone while she was working knowing with co-workers in earshot she would be less likely to say something rude or to try to bring me down and it worked, for the most part. She wasn't enthusiastic, but I never would have expected that much anyhow. Perhaps you could work out something similar to soften the blow, so to speak.
You don't mention your mother in this. Is she also opposed to your boyfriend? If not speak to her about it ... maybe she can offer some suggestions. But I wouldn't count on their help with a wedding or even their attending. And if he decides no to speak to you for years, well he's a childish person and it's his loss. I guess sailors are as wimpy as they say they are! LOL I'm just kidding. My husband was a Marine.
Why not just plan a small wedding? Or just go to the city hall. To me that would be less stressful than worrying about how a parent will act at a wedding!!
How can you get a military man to do anything, but you say he knows your weak spots, so suck it up old girl and make up your mind you will not let him push them. Just tell them flat outand don't act scared, present him with something already formed in cement. To what little knowledge a military man respects courage and would rather have you (excuse me) but spit right in his eye before cowering before him. And I bet your Mom in private has got his number down pat, he doesn't just want you to know it. He is after all under the uniform an all that sputter, just a man, just a father, and he may be having trouble losing you (and no man weill ever be food enouh for his child) Have fiance have his uniform on and, present a united front and tell fiance' to give
as good as he gets only nicely and I think---I am by no means an expert----father may take it better than you think, And what is the worst thing that could happen, so they get mad, your Mom would find a way to see you anyway. Be firm not arrogant when you tell them, like your minds or made up, don't ask, but you would like their approval but if not, let them know you are going to do it anyway. Be mature--he is just a man--he is used to command and old habits die hard. Again, if it were me and like I said, but if the man my daughter was going to marry came to us like a scared wimp, I wouldn't care for that. I had rather he say M. and Mrs . orJoe and Betty, Erin and I have decided to get married and we wanted you to be the first we told. Simple, keep it simple. And remember when you have children (if you want kids) he will be putty in your hands. Hope so anyway. May not be right just some observations. Good luck.But I do know if you present someone with something already settled and done and do not ask for help or t heir opinion it takes away the chance of giving them anything to say. Don't ask opinions. Just do.
I had to go through the same thing with my mom. The longer you wait, the greater the anxiety is, building up. Just do it. Its like jumping in a pool of cold water. The way I did it, I was pretty much just sitting around, I had been engaged for a few weeks and decided to snap out of my fears. My mom was in the bathroom doing her hair. I just went in there and held my hand out, with my ring on. She looked at it, looked away from me, gave me her usual speech, and it was over. She has accepted the fact that it is happening. Your dad actually sounds a lot scarier, but its still something you need to approach with confidence and assertiveness.
The devil isn't that scary, once you know how to deal with him.
He's only scary because you allow him to be.
If he knows what buttons to push, then 'cut the switch' on those buttons, like an electrician snipping a wire. You're right ... he knows exactly how to play you, so stop letting him.
Be different.
Stop cow-towing to him, and be less 'daddy's girl', if that's the usual role you play. Whatever you're doing, STOP it, and take a new approach.
He will never change, so you have to work within his limitations, and do a little changing yourself.
First, stop caving into him the minute he starts to growl.
Second, have as many family members around you when you tell them so that he might be less likely to spoil everyone's good time.
Also, in the next few days, why not prepare some facts and figures in black and white, print them out, and SHOW him why your guy is solid husband material. Give the regimented military man a detailed requisition for a husband, and show him all of the things that make your guy perfect for you: Salary potential, family pedigree, common interests, desire for children, no drinking or drug use (Gawd, I hope not), desire for stability ... whatever other ammo you can bring to this gunfight, bring it. Hit him with as much raw data as you can, and smile while he's reading it. Show no fear. Become stronger, and he will start respecting you. Right now, he doesn't.
My father was old-school Italian, so I know from stubborn. When you turn men like our dad's inside out, they only want for us to have a better life than they did, and they would walk through hot coals if we really needed something. They're softies inside ... somewhere. If you could find your dad's gooey cream-filled center, that might help, too.
Best of luck and thank your man for serving, and give him a *big hug* Congrats !!!
How do you deal with this?
ok, so as much as he hurt me, I still love my ex and sometimes I randomly get stuck in these moods where i'm pissed off at the world because I keep thinking of him and missing him. we both said and did somethings we shouldn't have, and we both hurt each other. it's been about two weeks since we last spoke, and a month since we broke up. i've seen him commenting a few girls on myspace, and he always put ';don't care'; and ';single'; on his myspace. im not gonna lie, i've comented other guys too and gotten y share of coments, but i love him more then anything and i would kill to have him back. it hurts to see him talking to other girls and putting that on his status, and it hurts e that he doesn't care as he says. how do you deal with loving someone who doesn't love you, and how do you deal with seeing the person you love with soeone else? i've never dealt with this before and it's a lot harder then i thought it would be. and also, is it possible that he's completely forgotten I exist?How do you deal with this?
I know exactly what you're feeling, and although you may not think so, you WILL get over it. Right now it seems as if this is the end of the world for you, trust me I know, but the fact of the matter is, it isn't. Time heals everything, what you need to do (as difficult as it sounds) is to perhaps either not get on Myspace anymore, or just remove him from your friends list, that way you won't be tempted into looking at his page/statuses.
The more you look at it, the more it's going to hurt, you'll just end up dwelling on the situation, which isn't going to help at all with the healing process.
I know exactly what you're feeling, and although you may not think so, you WILL get over it. Right now it seems as if this is the end of the world for you, trust me I know, but the fact of the matter is, it isn't. Time heals everything, what you need to do (as difficult as it sounds) is to perhaps either not get on Myspace anymore, or just remove him from your friends list, that way you won't be tempted into looking at his page/statuses.
The more you look at it, the more it's going to hurt, you'll just end up dwelling on the situation, which isn't going to help at all with the healing process.
How to deal with this?
ok, so as much as he hurt me, I still love my ex and sometimes I randomly get stuck in these moods where i'm pissed off at the world because I keep thinking of him and missing him. we both said and did somethings we shouldn't have, and we both hurt each other. it's been about two weeks since we last spoke, and a month since we broke up. i've seen him commenting a few girls on myspace, and he always put ';don't care'; and ';single'; on his myspace. im not gonna lie, i've comented other guys too and gotten y share of coments, but i love him more then anything and i would kill to have him back. it hurts to see him talking to other girls and putting that on his status, and it hurts e that he doesn't care as he says. how do you deal with loving someone who doesn't love you, and how do you deal with seeing the person you love with soeone else? i've never dealt with this before and it's a lot harder then i thought it would be. and also, is it possible that he's completely forgotten I exist?How to deal with this?
What did he do to hurt you? Why did you break up?
You broke up for a reason. Move on with your life. Don't go back. Move forward. Why does it hurt that he says ';don't care';? He's no longer with you, so he doesn't care. You don't love him. It sounds like you like the anguish and drama of it all. If you both really loved each other, then you wouldn't have done whatever you both did to hurt each other. Stop checking his My Space page. You're on the verge of becoming a stalker.How to deal with this?
he could just be putting on an act because he's hurt too. if you can, try and talk to him about it and if it still doesn't work then you just need to try and move on. it will be difficult and long but you have to keep in mind that if it didn't work out its for a reason and it wasn't meant to be. instead of only remembering the good times, you have to remember some bad times too, to remind yourself of why you two aren't right for each other. and no matter what just remember that if this guy didn't work out, that means there is an even better guy waiting for you and its only a matter of time before you start a new chapter in your life. whether it takes a week, a month, or a year, it will happen you just have to believe that it will all be ok
What did he do to hurt you? Why did you break up?
You broke up for a reason. Move on with your life. Don't go back. Move forward. Why does it hurt that he says ';don't care';? He's no longer with you, so he doesn't care. You don't love him. It sounds like you like the anguish and drama of it all. If you both really loved each other, then you wouldn't have done whatever you both did to hurt each other. Stop checking his My Space page. You're on the verge of becoming a stalker.How to deal with this?
he could just be putting on an act because he's hurt too. if you can, try and talk to him about it and if it still doesn't work then you just need to try and move on. it will be difficult and long but you have to keep in mind that if it didn't work out its for a reason and it wasn't meant to be. instead of only remembering the good times, you have to remember some bad times too, to remind yourself of why you two aren't right for each other. and no matter what just remember that if this guy didn't work out, that means there is an even better guy waiting for you and its only a matter of time before you start a new chapter in your life. whether it takes a week, a month, or a year, it will happen you just have to believe that it will all be ok
How to deal with loosing love ones.?
I lost my brother when I was 12, I lost my great aunt, lost my grandmother, lost my mother 2years ago, and I lost my first grandchild that past away do to sids 9 months ago. Everyone was very special to me and can not deal with the lost. When a song comes on I cry and can not understand why the had 2 leave me.I feel all alone.How to deal with loosing love ones.?
I know sort of what youre going through, but not so strong.
I lost my brother last year.
I know it hurts, but perhaps you just need to talk to someone about it.
Doesnt have to be a councellor, just a friend. Even a neighbour youre close to.
Its good to cry sometimes.
Just let it all out.
Everyone leaves at some time in their life.
Everything happens for a reason.
It was just their time to go, Im afraid. :(
The only true way to deal with it is talk to someone
Let out everything you feel.
Councellors are good with this as they are trained.
But you dont have to go of course.
Dont bottle up your emotions, make sure to let them out every now and again.
I find in doing this, I dont build it all up to the point of explosion.
Everything will be okay!
Just stay strong!
And find someone you know you can look to for guidance and support.
Good luck!
xoxoxHow to deal with loosing love ones.?
You are too concerned with what was and what will be. There's a saying: ';Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present.'; Kung Fu Panda Movie.
I cannot begin to imagine what you have gone through. Just know you are not alone.
Live life and be happy.drawing a circle excel
I know sort of what youre going through, but not so strong.
I lost my brother last year.
I know it hurts, but perhaps you just need to talk to someone about it.
Doesnt have to be a councellor, just a friend. Even a neighbour youre close to.
Its good to cry sometimes.
Just let it all out.
Everyone leaves at some time in their life.
Everything happens for a reason.
It was just their time to go, Im afraid. :(
The only true way to deal with it is talk to someone
Let out everything you feel.
Councellors are good with this as they are trained.
But you dont have to go of course.
Dont bottle up your emotions, make sure to let them out every now and again.
I find in doing this, I dont build it all up to the point of explosion.
Everything will be okay!
Just stay strong!
And find someone you know you can look to for guidance and support.
Good luck!
xoxoxHow to deal with loosing love ones.?
You are too concerned with what was and what will be. There's a saying: ';Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present.'; Kung Fu Panda Movie.
I cannot begin to imagine what you have gone through. Just know you are not alone.
Live life and be happy.
Help... I am in love with a married man?
I am 26 years old with two kids. One of them is with a married man. Here is the deal I love him but because he is married I know there is no future for us. I have tried to move on but I won't let myself get intrested in someone else because I am so stuck on him. Everytime I say it's over he sucks me back in like I have no control. His wife has known about us for 2 years we have been together for 2 1/2. I know the best thing to do is to end things because all he has done is lie and hurt me I am just not sure how to do it.... Did I mention that we work together? Help meHelp... I am in love with a married man?
Life is too short to waste time on a relationship that has no substance. If he's in a committed marriage or relationship, you are only allowing yourself to be used. Trust me, I was ';the other woman'; for 12 years. Thank God I finally saw the light. The lying and hurting doesn't stop. If anything it'll get worse before it's over. Do yourself a favor and save it for someone who'll appreciate it by being monogomous!!! You deserve more and should be stronger than to let anyone take advantage of you in such a personal way!!Help... I am in love with a married man?
u need to leave that married man along
let him go, many guys out there better then him and are single
There comes the old saying ';don't s**t where you eat'; my advice to you is to try and get another job...if you can't get another job just cut off all interactions with this man...if you need to talk to him at work keep the conversation work related and do not go beyond that...if he tries to change the subject ignore it and end the conversation
You have control. You are not a mindless robot and he does not have your remote control. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. Think of what she is going through, no matter how bad he paints a picture of her. Set your boundaries at work. He does not have an all access pass to you either.
just let things go
You have to help yourself here. Even if it means changing jobs. You already know what is going on is wrong. Wrong for you, wrong for him, wrong for your kids and wrong for his wife.
It will be hard and somewhat painful, but you have no future with him and even if you did, is this the kind of man you would want to be married to? What does this say about who he is? What kind of example are you setting for your kids? Make the break and find a man who deserves you, this one doesn't.
don't be foolish... if he will do this to his wife, he will do it to you someday. He is selfish and uncaring. Do you really want this for yourself? What if you were the wife?
Move on, remove his emotional hold by opening your eyes to the situation and be honest. You should want better for yourself and your children.
You can still work together... just be strong and determined to move ahead.
You've got a very heavy problem here. He's USING you and there's no future with him. He has hurt and lied to you, so your trust is dodgy, at best. You have the right idea...end things, and end it NOW before you really do get hurt.
You said you have two kids. Are you married? If you are, you could be putting your own marriage at risk if your husband discovers this affair. YES you're having an AFFAIR with a married man even if you're single.
Nobody wins in situations such as this, and your children will suffer too. Move on..and try to be happy WITHOUT the joker who's ruining your life.
i think u should move on because if he is doing that what u should move.
just dont talk to him, appologize to his wife, you have two kids? from who? find a real man.
Stop being so arrogant.
He is using you.. He knows that he can have you when he wants you.. When you get away from him something must happen that makes you want to go back to him.. You need to pull yourself out of the entire situation. Just imagine how his wife feels and if that was you.. I know you want to be happy but if he does not want to commit to you 100% then MOVE ON!!! besides if he did leave his wife for you there is a big chance you could be in the same shoes as his wife.. They do it once they will do it again..
This is an ugly situation, for sure. So I'll skip the crap and get to it.
1. It may not be easy, but you need to ignore him. Don't talk to him, and demand that things end if he persists.
2. Find something lengthy or difficult to get involved in. (try to avoid any addictions, they just make it worse) If you let something like, say, excercising, learning to use a new computer program, a videogame, etc.
3. Be strong! Even after you find something that works, your problems won't end immediately. But every day you do, it becomes easier.
I hope what i said helps you out. Good luck!
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AN
First, your question says that you are in love with your kid. I know you didn't mean that and wanted to correct it for you.
Next, think ahead and back. First, if someone had told you a year ago that you would still be in the same situation, stealing a married man, letting him lie to you, to his wife, all this time, would you smack yourself?
Next look ahead. What if you are still in this same place in another year? Two? Five?
Lastly, karma is real. Not in that whimsical fairy way, but you are asking to be hurt in life. You knowing do a married man, but want life to treat YOU better? You knowing put yourself with a man that TELLS YOU HE LIES (I bet you can think of other times he has lied to you...to his wife...to work) and yet you expect some kind of honesty???? Are you mad?
You need to find someone else, and fast. I can see and understand that you are weak. That you can't pull yourself away. But rather than telling him you are dating around (The only reason you would tell him is to make him jealous, but he cheats and you have allowed him to use you for years......he is going to try to talk you out of it. So don't tell him you are dating.) Then when you find a real man, a man you can trust and have for YOURSELF, break it off with the married man.
You may need counseling. It's going to be hard for you to trust a good man, having made yourself believe a liar is more worth your time all this time. Good luck.
Adultery is never an option and cheating is wrong. Especially when there are children involved. If you can not bring yourself to let him go for your own reasons (( and I'll point out here that you have already named several so you already know he is bad for you )) Then do it for the kids. When adults can't control themselves you set a bad example for your children and make their lives difficult and unstable. The fact that this man is married only makes it worse because then your not just destroying one family you are destroying two. My best suggestion is to try and avoid him at work, ask him not to talk to you and when he presses the issue just refuse, snub him, walk off, go to the ladies room, tell someone at work (( like a supervisor)) that he is harassing you and that will free you from him talking to you there. - Next step, move on, put yourself out in public where you can meet new people. Find out about local groups who are involved in the hobbies you are interested in and involve yourself in them, - There will likely be SINGLE men you can meet. Maybe (( depending on the age of your kids)) Even look into play groups for the kids, there are lots of single fathers out there who are great people that will have at least one thing in common with you already and the socialization would also be good for the kids getting to know kids that are also from single parrent households. - The biggest thing is don't involve yourself with a married man, it's not worth it and it will only hurt you and the ones you love.
I have been on the wife's side, and it is not a pretty thing. Although, i think you both deserve better, have you ever thought about your child that you have with this man? Telling this child that his/her mother was only a side thing for his/her father is pretty embarrassing. I mean don't you want more for yourself and your children. You are only teaching them wrong and that being unfaithful in marriage is something that is okay. Believe in yourself and take action in your life. Leave him and make him responsible for his child. There are plenty good men out there and alot of them are not married.
the married man is a dead end street... statically he won't leave his wife for you and even if he did. he cheated on wife number 1 didn't he...wife number 2 would get the same treatment. you need to change jobs, even move if that's what it takes to get him out of your system. being with a married man is a lonely road. did you spend Christmas with him, doubtful... you deserve better, your children do...
You really don`t love him, if you did..you wouldn`t be sticking around and letting him USE you. We all are vulnable to our feelings, it supercede our minds. In any relationship the female gender is the strongest of both..ones who can survive a broken relationship. You need to show him it`s over, MOVE ON with your life. Two and a half years?? Work together? lol... now that is awesome, turn your life around, start dating and do start ignoring him. You know there`s no future with him. Stop being so weak with him, geeeeze!!! These relationships is so old, start thinking gurl!! You could burn this candle on both ends and have the best of both worlds...It`s all up to YOU!!
Ok, so first, change jobs if at all possible. This will obviously help since you won't have to see him every day. In general though, get out of that situation. I was with a married woman for some time, and it was hell. You know that you are sharing the person that you want with someone else, and the whole situation is just putting yourself through emotional punishment. If he hasn't left his wife in 2 1/2 years, he's not going to. And even if he did, think about it. What are the chances that this was a one time thing? You probably were not his first affair if he is capable of carrying it on for so long, and you wouldn't be the last I'm sure.
Trust me, I know the feeling of that dependency. When you guys are together, it probably feels like the most exciting thing in the world, but the fact is that he's married, and he does not value you. If he did, he wouldn't have started a relationship with you in the first place while married. Don't believe him when he says he will leave her. If he was so unhappy with her, he would have left her regardless of you coming along.
If I understand it right, he is the father of one of your kids? This, I'm sure, greatly complicates things, but I think you should sever those ties with him personally, and keep it to a relationship that involves the child. There is a saying that I like, it goes something like ';if you always do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten';. So, it sounds like it's time for some change, but it's up to you whether you want to keep putting yourself, and now your child, through this mess.
My advice, know that you're stronger than you've been acting, and get out.
Just plain RESPECT yourself %26amp; get a man who respects you!!!web development hair styling
Life is too short to waste time on a relationship that has no substance. If he's in a committed marriage or relationship, you are only allowing yourself to be used. Trust me, I was ';the other woman'; for 12 years. Thank God I finally saw the light. The lying and hurting doesn't stop. If anything it'll get worse before it's over. Do yourself a favor and save it for someone who'll appreciate it by being monogomous!!! You deserve more and should be stronger than to let anyone take advantage of you in such a personal way!!Help... I am in love with a married man?
u need to leave that married man along
let him go, many guys out there better then him and are single
There comes the old saying ';don't s**t where you eat'; my advice to you is to try and get another job...if you can't get another job just cut off all interactions with this man...if you need to talk to him at work keep the conversation work related and do not go beyond that...if he tries to change the subject ignore it and end the conversation
You have control. You are not a mindless robot and he does not have your remote control. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. Think of what she is going through, no matter how bad he paints a picture of her. Set your boundaries at work. He does not have an all access pass to you either.
just let things go
You have to help yourself here. Even if it means changing jobs. You already know what is going on is wrong. Wrong for you, wrong for him, wrong for your kids and wrong for his wife.
It will be hard and somewhat painful, but you have no future with him and even if you did, is this the kind of man you would want to be married to? What does this say about who he is? What kind of example are you setting for your kids? Make the break and find a man who deserves you, this one doesn't.
don't be foolish... if he will do this to his wife, he will do it to you someday. He is selfish and uncaring. Do you really want this for yourself? What if you were the wife?
Move on, remove his emotional hold by opening your eyes to the situation and be honest. You should want better for yourself and your children.
You can still work together... just be strong and determined to move ahead.
You've got a very heavy problem here. He's USING you and there's no future with him. He has hurt and lied to you, so your trust is dodgy, at best. You have the right idea...end things, and end it NOW before you really do get hurt.
You said you have two kids. Are you married? If you are, you could be putting your own marriage at risk if your husband discovers this affair. YES you're having an AFFAIR with a married man even if you're single.
Nobody wins in situations such as this, and your children will suffer too. Move on..and try to be happy WITHOUT the joker who's ruining your life.
i think u should move on because if he is doing that what u should move.
just dont talk to him, appologize to his wife, you have two kids? from who? find a real man.
Stop being so arrogant.
He is using you.. He knows that he can have you when he wants you.. When you get away from him something must happen that makes you want to go back to him.. You need to pull yourself out of the entire situation. Just imagine how his wife feels and if that was you.. I know you want to be happy but if he does not want to commit to you 100% then MOVE ON!!! besides if he did leave his wife for you there is a big chance you could be in the same shoes as his wife.. They do it once they will do it again..
This is an ugly situation, for sure. So I'll skip the crap and get to it.
1. It may not be easy, but you need to ignore him. Don't talk to him, and demand that things end if he persists.
2. Find something lengthy or difficult to get involved in. (try to avoid any addictions, they just make it worse) If you let something like, say, excercising, learning to use a new computer program, a videogame, etc.
3. Be strong! Even after you find something that works, your problems won't end immediately. But every day you do, it becomes easier.
I hope what i said helps you out. Good luck!
(^^)v
AN
First, your question says that you are in love with your kid. I know you didn't mean that and wanted to correct it for you.
Next, think ahead and back. First, if someone had told you a year ago that you would still be in the same situation, stealing a married man, letting him lie to you, to his wife, all this time, would you smack yourself?
Next look ahead. What if you are still in this same place in another year? Two? Five?
Lastly, karma is real. Not in that whimsical fairy way, but you are asking to be hurt in life. You knowing do a married man, but want life to treat YOU better? You knowing put yourself with a man that TELLS YOU HE LIES (I bet you can think of other times he has lied to you...to his wife...to work) and yet you expect some kind of honesty???? Are you mad?
You need to find someone else, and fast. I can see and understand that you are weak. That you can't pull yourself away. But rather than telling him you are dating around (The only reason you would tell him is to make him jealous, but he cheats and you have allowed him to use you for years......he is going to try to talk you out of it. So don't tell him you are dating.) Then when you find a real man, a man you can trust and have for YOURSELF, break it off with the married man.
You may need counseling. It's going to be hard for you to trust a good man, having made yourself believe a liar is more worth your time all this time. Good luck.
Adultery is never an option and cheating is wrong. Especially when there are children involved. If you can not bring yourself to let him go for your own reasons (( and I'll point out here that you have already named several so you already know he is bad for you )) Then do it for the kids. When adults can't control themselves you set a bad example for your children and make their lives difficult and unstable. The fact that this man is married only makes it worse because then your not just destroying one family you are destroying two. My best suggestion is to try and avoid him at work, ask him not to talk to you and when he presses the issue just refuse, snub him, walk off, go to the ladies room, tell someone at work (( like a supervisor)) that he is harassing you and that will free you from him talking to you there. - Next step, move on, put yourself out in public where you can meet new people. Find out about local groups who are involved in the hobbies you are interested in and involve yourself in them, - There will likely be SINGLE men you can meet. Maybe (( depending on the age of your kids)) Even look into play groups for the kids, there are lots of single fathers out there who are great people that will have at least one thing in common with you already and the socialization would also be good for the kids getting to know kids that are also from single parrent households. - The biggest thing is don't involve yourself with a married man, it's not worth it and it will only hurt you and the ones you love.
I have been on the wife's side, and it is not a pretty thing. Although, i think you both deserve better, have you ever thought about your child that you have with this man? Telling this child that his/her mother was only a side thing for his/her father is pretty embarrassing. I mean don't you want more for yourself and your children. You are only teaching them wrong and that being unfaithful in marriage is something that is okay. Believe in yourself and take action in your life. Leave him and make him responsible for his child. There are plenty good men out there and alot of them are not married.
the married man is a dead end street... statically he won't leave his wife for you and even if he did. he cheated on wife number 1 didn't he...wife number 2 would get the same treatment. you need to change jobs, even move if that's what it takes to get him out of your system. being with a married man is a lonely road. did you spend Christmas with him, doubtful... you deserve better, your children do...
You really don`t love him, if you did..you wouldn`t be sticking around and letting him USE you. We all are vulnable to our feelings, it supercede our minds. In any relationship the female gender is the strongest of both..ones who can survive a broken relationship. You need to show him it`s over, MOVE ON with your life. Two and a half years?? Work together? lol... now that is awesome, turn your life around, start dating and do start ignoring him. You know there`s no future with him. Stop being so weak with him, geeeeze!!! These relationships is so old, start thinking gurl!! You could burn this candle on both ends and have the best of both worlds...It`s all up to YOU!!
Ok, so first, change jobs if at all possible. This will obviously help since you won't have to see him every day. In general though, get out of that situation. I was with a married woman for some time, and it was hell. You know that you are sharing the person that you want with someone else, and the whole situation is just putting yourself through emotional punishment. If he hasn't left his wife in 2 1/2 years, he's not going to. And even if he did, think about it. What are the chances that this was a one time thing? You probably were not his first affair if he is capable of carrying it on for so long, and you wouldn't be the last I'm sure.
Trust me, I know the feeling of that dependency. When you guys are together, it probably feels like the most exciting thing in the world, but the fact is that he's married, and he does not value you. If he did, he wouldn't have started a relationship with you in the first place while married. Don't believe him when he says he will leave her. If he was so unhappy with her, he would have left her regardless of you coming along.
If I understand it right, he is the father of one of your kids? This, I'm sure, greatly complicates things, but I think you should sever those ties with him personally, and keep it to a relationship that involves the child. There is a saying that I like, it goes something like ';if you always do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten';. So, it sounds like it's time for some change, but it's up to you whether you want to keep putting yourself, and now your child, through this mess.
My advice, know that you're stronger than you've been acting, and get out.
Just plain RESPECT yourself %26amp; get a man who respects you!!!
How do I deal with Unrequited Love?
I was in a relationship wth the most gorgeous girl I know a while ago and when she told me she wanted to call it quits, it really hit me, I kept trying to get back with her and it didnt work at all, in fact because of it I have severed all contact with her.
Now I am spending some time with my sister's and now my best friend (who happens to be a girl), we were once going out but that was a long time ago anyway, I am starting to feel in love with her again and its tearing me apart because she has a boyfriend.
I am CHRONICALLY sociophobic and know and trust very few people, so it is so hard for me to get girlfriends, I have tried and tried not to be sociophobic but it still haunts me.
I really need help because the unrequited love of both girls is tearming me apart, affecting me mentally and getting in the way of important thingsHow do I deal with Unrequited Love?
The first thing you need to do is accept the fact that you cannot have either of these girls. Don't get caught up in daydreams of ';what if';. Just let it go. There are too many nice girls out there to let yourself get mired in despair. As for being sociophobic, that is something that is serious. And you are basically the only one that can control it. Women aren't gonna knock on the door and invite themselves in to meet you.....you know this. You are gonna have to come to grips with this problem and start going out. This doesn't mean you have to go clubbing this weekend! It just means getting out more....being around people and learning to talk with them more. Relax and try to enjoy the conversations. I have a friend who has been diagnosed with SAD and he is trying to come to grips with it right now, too. It is a very hard thing, but you have to try if you want to truly enjoy life.How do I deal with Unrequited Love?
calm down. you need to walk and talk like a man and they will come to you.
Now I am spending some time with my sister's and now my best friend (who happens to be a girl), we were once going out but that was a long time ago anyway, I am starting to feel in love with her again and its tearing me apart because she has a boyfriend.
I am CHRONICALLY sociophobic and know and trust very few people, so it is so hard for me to get girlfriends, I have tried and tried not to be sociophobic but it still haunts me.
I really need help because the unrequited love of both girls is tearming me apart, affecting me mentally and getting in the way of important thingsHow do I deal with Unrequited Love?
The first thing you need to do is accept the fact that you cannot have either of these girls. Don't get caught up in daydreams of ';what if';. Just let it go. There are too many nice girls out there to let yourself get mired in despair. As for being sociophobic, that is something that is serious. And you are basically the only one that can control it. Women aren't gonna knock on the door and invite themselves in to meet you.....you know this. You are gonna have to come to grips with this problem and start going out. This doesn't mean you have to go clubbing this weekend! It just means getting out more....being around people and learning to talk with them more. Relax and try to enjoy the conversations. I have a friend who has been diagnosed with SAD and he is trying to come to grips with it right now, too. It is a very hard thing, but you have to try if you want to truly enjoy life.How do I deal with Unrequited Love?
calm down. you need to walk and talk like a man and they will come to you.
How should i deal with the love of my life moving to kentucky when i live in illinois?
this boy im in love with named blake just moved to kentucky and i didnt even get a proper goodbye and idk what to do and hes never easy to get ahold of and i will basically never be able to talk to him again and he didnt even know i liked him that much. help!How should i deal with the love of my life moving to kentucky when i live in illinois?
Let him go...there's nothing in kentucky but chicken...lots an lots of fried chicken LOL Give life a chance you'll meet someone soon...that's what my crystal balls say.How should i deal with the love of my life moving to kentucky when i live in illinois?
Blake is probably gone forever but you can always get yourself a handsome Bears fan.
Go Bears!!!
If he didn't know you liked him then he wasn't the love of your life, you are just infatuated with him. You will find someone else to love.
Not a big deal this hapopend to me once couldnt get over it for about a mounth then i realized there are more fish in the sea just gotta catch one =] me of course im after a sail fish there a little hard to catch but give or take ill get one some day hope this helps
Let him go...there's nothing in kentucky but chicken...lots an lots of fried chicken LOL Give life a chance you'll meet someone soon...that's what my crystal balls say.How should i deal with the love of my life moving to kentucky when i live in illinois?
Blake is probably gone forever but you can always get yourself a handsome Bears fan.
Go Bears!!!
If he didn't know you liked him then he wasn't the love of your life, you are just infatuated with him. You will find someone else to love.
Not a big deal this hapopend to me once couldnt get over it for about a mounth then i realized there are more fish in the sea just gotta catch one =] me of course im after a sail fish there a little hard to catch but give or take ill get one some day hope this helps
How Do you deal with being love sick?
Well ive been with this guy off and on for the last 2 yrs and I have fallen in love with him and he has to. but i do stupid stuff to push him away because i crave attention so much...im still trying to figure out why i crave it so bad...i just feel so neglected sometimes...but anyway now he has broken up wit me and he is trying to teach me a lesson in order for me to get him back. i want him back but he is really pushin my buttons with the lesson bull what do i do im goin crazy with out himHow Do you deal with being love sick?
decide for real what you actually want girl!
decide for real what you actually want girl!
How should i deal with the love of my life moving to kentucky when i live in illinois?
this boy im in love with named blake just moved to kentucky and i didnt even get a proper goodbye and idk what to do and hes never easy to get ahold of and i will basically never be able to talk to him again and he didnt even know i liked him that much. help!How should i deal with the love of my life moving to kentucky when i live in illinois?
Let him go...there's nothing in kentucky but chicken...lots an lots of fried chicken LOL Give life a chance you'll meet someone soon...that's what my crystal balls say.How should i deal with the love of my life moving to kentucky when i live in illinois?
Blake is probably gone forever but you can always get yourself a handsome Bears fan.
Go Bears!!!
If he didn't know you liked him then he wasn't the love of your life, you are just infatuated with him. You will find someone else to love.
Not a big deal this hapopend to me once couldnt get over it for about a mounth then i realized there are more fish in the sea just gotta catch one =] me of course im after a sail fish there a little hard to catch but give or take ill get one some day hope this helps
Let him go...there's nothing in kentucky but chicken...lots an lots of fried chicken LOL Give life a chance you'll meet someone soon...that's what my crystal balls say.How should i deal with the love of my life moving to kentucky when i live in illinois?
Blake is probably gone forever but you can always get yourself a handsome Bears fan.
Go Bears!!!
If he didn't know you liked him then he wasn't the love of your life, you are just infatuated with him. You will find someone else to love.
Not a big deal this hapopend to me once couldnt get over it for about a mounth then i realized there are more fish in the sea just gotta catch one =] me of course im after a sail fish there a little hard to catch but give or take ill get one some day hope this helps
How Do you deal with being love sick?
Well ive been with this guy off and on for the last 2 yrs and I have fallen in love with him and he has to. but i do stupid stuff to push him away because i crave attention so much...im still trying to figure out why i crave it so bad...i just feel so neglected sometimes...but anyway now he has broken up wit me and he is trying to teach me a lesson in order for me to get him back. i want him back but he is really pushin my buttons with the lesson bull what do i do im goin crazy with out himHow Do you deal with being love sick?
decide for real what you actually want girl!under eye concealer bitting their nails
decide for real what you actually want girl!
How to deal with impossible love?
This may sound weird but its true.
I went to the bank last week to open an account and then i meet the most beautiful woman i've ever seen.
And i fall in love hehe
Well, she works at the bank, but i feel nervous to go back there and ask her to go out.
First because, i don't know if she's alredy taken, second, she would call me crazy or what?
What should i do?How to deal with impossible love?
Straight up ask if she's available,she'll be flattered either way.Take it from there.How to deal with impossible love?
Just make small talk...eventually move up to the point, ya never know what could happen!
I think you may have something. Simply go back, tomorrow morning around 10 AM and ask her if she has lunch plans. Ask her to meet you at a nearby eatery.
go back check for a wedding ring go from there you will never know unless you try
First start with getting the word impossible out of your head ,nothing is impossible....And remember if you do try and get turned down don't take it to heart cause she might have things going on in her in her life you don't know about!!!
you should definitely go back and ask her out but first look for a wedding ring
Just do it pu**y. So what If she says no. So what if she has a boyfriend. She will be flattered that you are interested. Just dont be creepy about it. you have to be confident. What if she says yes. nothing to lose everything to gain. do it up boy
I went to the bank last week to open an account and then i meet the most beautiful woman i've ever seen.
And i fall in love hehe
Well, she works at the bank, but i feel nervous to go back there and ask her to go out.
First because, i don't know if she's alredy taken, second, she would call me crazy or what?
What should i do?How to deal with impossible love?
Straight up ask if she's available,she'll be flattered either way.Take it from there.How to deal with impossible love?
Just make small talk...eventually move up to the point, ya never know what could happen!
I think you may have something. Simply go back, tomorrow morning around 10 AM and ask her if she has lunch plans. Ask her to meet you at a nearby eatery.
go back check for a wedding ring go from there you will never know unless you try
First start with getting the word impossible out of your head ,nothing is impossible....And remember if you do try and get turned down don't take it to heart cause she might have things going on in her in her life you don't know about!!!
you should definitely go back and ask her out but first look for a wedding ring
Just do it pu**y. So what If she says no. So what if she has a boyfriend. She will be flattered that you are interested. Just dont be creepy about it. you have to be confident. What if she says yes. nothing to lose everything to gain. do it up boy
How do you deal with people that love to copy you?
I don't just mean copy you in little things such as buying the same things as you, but copying your entire personality. I have a ';friend'; that is stealing my personality and views on every issue. i know they wern't like this before, but the more im near my group of friends, the more this one idiot friend keeps copying me and its so annoying and it makes me angry. people say we look like brothers because he keeps copying the way i look even. ahhhhhhhhh F*%26amp;K himHow do you deal with people that love to copy you?
Think of it as flattery. I had a girl like this in high school. I was not a preppy person in high school and she was. She went from preppy to trying to be me. I was a tomboy and hung out with a lot of guys, played sports, etc. I was not worried about these guys as anything more. She tried to like me. You cannot go preppy to tomboyish over night. Was not like she could hang either. But, it is a fact of life. People are going to try copying you and yes it does get annoying. But these people admire you and wish they were more like you. You have something that they do not have. People are going to copay you from something little to something extreme. You could always use this to your advantage.How do you deal with people that love to copy you?
Be more spontaneous. If he can never guess what you're going to do next, he won't be able to copy you. Or, you could pull him aside and tell him you feel he's copying you, and even though it's flattering, you really think he should be himself.
Instead of expressing your real opinions you can say random things that don't make sense, dress like PeeWee Herman and take up a new hobby like moonwalking. Then when your friend tries to copy you he will come to regret it, hopefully.
1 you could tell him to f**k off and get his own personality
2 lie to him about your views on something, make it so that if he tells someone its his own view they would be apalled and look down on him for it.
3 about the looks: tell him your going to dye your hair luminous pink, then get one of those temporary hair colour sprays and wait till he dyes his hair then wash out the spray
A copy is never as good as the original. And people will notice the difference. Try to ignore him.
(Though I do like the idea about the temporary pink hair.)
wow. its kind of flattering but kind of annoying at the same time, isn't it? its normal for friends to take on like things..... styles, wording of things, interests..... thats a matter of influence within your social group; its totally normal;
but i know what you mean...... it's like, everything that makes you, ';you';... they totally copy. and it ends up making you look bad and so on. and you do care about them as a friend, you just wish they'd stop becasue its causing anxiety and making you look bad.......arrguh *sighs* it's enough to make you want to rip your eyes out with a salad fork.
idk what to tell you...... i've tried to gently point out the good things about them that makes them unique, and hope they see thier own value and uniqueness so they'll stop..... idk that its worked so entirely well yet..... but heres to hoping.
sidebar: if you do find a solution, can you email it to me? lol i'm being driven up a wall here...... lol
Think of it as flattery. I had a girl like this in high school. I was not a preppy person in high school and she was. She went from preppy to trying to be me. I was a tomboy and hung out with a lot of guys, played sports, etc. I was not worried about these guys as anything more. She tried to like me. You cannot go preppy to tomboyish over night. Was not like she could hang either. But, it is a fact of life. People are going to try copying you and yes it does get annoying. But these people admire you and wish they were more like you. You have something that they do not have. People are going to copay you from something little to something extreme. You could always use this to your advantage.How do you deal with people that love to copy you?
Be more spontaneous. If he can never guess what you're going to do next, he won't be able to copy you. Or, you could pull him aside and tell him you feel he's copying you, and even though it's flattering, you really think he should be himself.
Instead of expressing your real opinions you can say random things that don't make sense, dress like PeeWee Herman and take up a new hobby like moonwalking. Then when your friend tries to copy you he will come to regret it, hopefully.
1 you could tell him to f**k off and get his own personality
2 lie to him about your views on something, make it so that if he tells someone its his own view they would be apalled and look down on him for it.
3 about the looks: tell him your going to dye your hair luminous pink, then get one of those temporary hair colour sprays and wait till he dyes his hair then wash out the spray
A copy is never as good as the original. And people will notice the difference. Try to ignore him.
(Though I do like the idea about the temporary pink hair.)
wow. its kind of flattering but kind of annoying at the same time, isn't it? its normal for friends to take on like things..... styles, wording of things, interests..... thats a matter of influence within your social group; its totally normal;
but i know what you mean...... it's like, everything that makes you, ';you';... they totally copy. and it ends up making you look bad and so on. and you do care about them as a friend, you just wish they'd stop becasue its causing anxiety and making you look bad.......arrguh *sighs* it's enough to make you want to rip your eyes out with a salad fork.
idk what to tell you...... i've tried to gently point out the good things about them that makes them unique, and hope they see thier own value and uniqueness so they'll stop..... idk that its worked so entirely well yet..... but heres to hoping.
sidebar: if you do find a solution, can you email it to me? lol i'm being driven up a wall here...... lol
Should i become a dog trainer?
hi i just graduated high school. i love dealing and playing with dogs.i have a german Shepperd. i would like to know what the salary would be and what courses and schools to go to. I will probably work at pets mart for a couple years and then maybe open up my own dog training studio on average how much money would i make if i own my own dog training studio. i would love to go into training dogs for personal protection.
Thanks!Should i become a dog trainer?
No, YOU shouldn't. You should go back to primary school and learn how to punctuate, how to use a spell-checker, and what ';salary'; means.
?There is no such thing as ';german';, no such thing as ';Shepperd';.
?People who operate their own business do not receive a salary - only employees at a professional level get salaries; workers at below-professional level get wages or a commission or tips-only. But owners get neither - they get what's left of the business' cash-flow after paying salaries %26amp; wages, mortgages %26amp; rentals, maintenance %26amp; replacement of equipment. Most small businesses never reach that stage - they remain in a negative-balance situation until the receiver takes over and sells off whatever it can to help recover as much as possible of the mortgage still owing.
I am confident that you have NOT trained %26amp; competed with your poorly-bred maybe-German Shepherd Dog. No ADX. No Ob.Ch. No HGH. No IPO3 or SchH3. If you HAD qualified any well-bred pooch to that level you would:
(1) know the breed's name,
(2) know WHERE to ask this sort of question - and that _here_ is NOT the place!,
(3) know that the reputation of Petsmart ';classes'; is MIGHTY low and that anyone who has a smidgen of experience at REAL training is MOST unlikely to gain employment there,
(4) know that TRAINING is NOT ';dealing and playing with dogs';.
Are you even aware of how much time professional trainers spend being stitched back together? It is a consequence of the fact that (with rare exceptions) the pooches brought to them have been massively neglected for years and have become willing - often KEEN - to bite anyone or anything that defies ITS wishes.
I find it hard to believe that you GRADUATED from a high school knowing so little! You obviously not even once sat down for a discussion with a Careers Guidance Counsellor at your school, in order to discuss what career courses your previous academic %26amp; mechanical record indicated you were suitable for, and to get guidance as to which subjects you should include in your study courses during the next 3 or so years. For starters, if becoming a business owner was your ambition, you SHOULD have been taking a management course that included accountancy/bookkeeping.
You would then know how to develop a cost|benefit plan to evaluate whether there was a viable market for your proposed business in your area, and calculate/estimate how many years you would need to survive on bank-loans before the business started earning more than it was spending. A short term for the planning process is ';market research';.
Les P, owner of GSD_Friendly: http://pets.groups.yahoo.com/group/GSD_F
';In GSDs'; as of 1967Should i become a dog trainer?
Thanks for the points, voters.
It's a pity that [Michael] wasn't interested enough to choose a Best Answer himself, eh!.
Les P
Well you need to know how to correctly spell dog breeds. Like German Shepherd.
Join a GSD club. Learn how to train from professionals. Google Shutzhund and find a club near you. Stay away from petsmart - it will only hurt your resume.
if it is your passion and you think that training dogs reduses the fights they have(like pitbulls) then go for it! try to help as many pitbulls as possible ;)
talk to them at petsmart what courses you need.
Thanks!Should i become a dog trainer?
No, YOU shouldn't. You should go back to primary school and learn how to punctuate, how to use a spell-checker, and what ';salary'; means.
?There is no such thing as ';german';, no such thing as ';Shepperd';.
?People who operate their own business do not receive a salary - only employees at a professional level get salaries; workers at below-professional level get wages or a commission or tips-only. But owners get neither - they get what's left of the business' cash-flow after paying salaries %26amp; wages, mortgages %26amp; rentals, maintenance %26amp; replacement of equipment. Most small businesses never reach that stage - they remain in a negative-balance situation until the receiver takes over and sells off whatever it can to help recover as much as possible of the mortgage still owing.
I am confident that you have NOT trained %26amp; competed with your poorly-bred maybe-German Shepherd Dog. No ADX. No Ob.Ch. No HGH. No IPO3 or SchH3. If you HAD qualified any well-bred pooch to that level you would:
(1) know the breed's name,
(2) know WHERE to ask this sort of question - and that _here_ is NOT the place!,
(3) know that the reputation of Petsmart ';classes'; is MIGHTY low and that anyone who has a smidgen of experience at REAL training is MOST unlikely to gain employment there,
(4) know that TRAINING is NOT ';dealing and playing with dogs';.
Are you even aware of how much time professional trainers spend being stitched back together? It is a consequence of the fact that (with rare exceptions) the pooches brought to them have been massively neglected for years and have become willing - often KEEN - to bite anyone or anything that defies ITS wishes.
I find it hard to believe that you GRADUATED from a high school knowing so little! You obviously not even once sat down for a discussion with a Careers Guidance Counsellor at your school, in order to discuss what career courses your previous academic %26amp; mechanical record indicated you were suitable for, and to get guidance as to which subjects you should include in your study courses during the next 3 or so years. For starters, if becoming a business owner was your ambition, you SHOULD have been taking a management course that included accountancy/bookkeeping.
You would then know how to develop a cost|benefit plan to evaluate whether there was a viable market for your proposed business in your area, and calculate/estimate how many years you would need to survive on bank-loans before the business started earning more than it was spending. A short term for the planning process is ';market research';.
Les P, owner of GSD_Friendly: http://pets.groups.yahoo.com/group/GSD_F
';In GSDs'; as of 1967Should i become a dog trainer?
Thanks for the points, voters.
It's a pity that [Michael] wasn't interested enough to choose a Best Answer himself, eh!.
Les P
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Well you need to know how to correctly spell dog breeds. Like German Shepherd.
Join a GSD club. Learn how to train from professionals. Google Shutzhund and find a club near you. Stay away from petsmart - it will only hurt your resume.
if it is your passion and you think that training dogs reduses the fights they have(like pitbulls) then go for it! try to help as many pitbulls as possible ;)
talk to them at petsmart what courses you need.
How do you deal with loving a cleb?
i love zac efron alot my friends say a little to much but he is so hotHow do you deal with loving a cleb?
Find someone who you can actually have, trust me it's alright to like a cleb but not obsess over if you're under the age of 13. You can find someone better. You'll get over that stage don't worry.How do you deal with loving a cleb?
hey go for it he might b into u. I guess i have the same problem with Peewee Gonzalez but i now we'll b togeter some day cuz i LUV HIM WIT ALL MY HEART
GOOD LUK
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Find someone who you can actually have, trust me it's alright to like a cleb but not obsess over if you're under the age of 13. You can find someone better. You'll get over that stage don't worry.How do you deal with loving a cleb?
hey go for it he might b into u. I guess i have the same problem with Peewee Gonzalez but i now we'll b togeter some day cuz i LUV HIM WIT ALL MY HEART
GOOD LUK
IG
Why do we LOVE the ones we cant have?
How come when one someone admits to another person they love them, the person they admitted it to DOESN'T. Yet that person, the one THEY love, doesn't love them back?
What's the deal with loving someone who doesn't love you?Why do we LOVE the ones we cant have?
Human nature, the grass is always greener, the forbidden sweet tastes sweeter,The moment you say don't, people can't help but do We are contrary creatures Good luck and God blessWhy do we LOVE the ones we cant have?
That is human life, we always want what he can not have. If you loved someone and you lost the love between you two and you broke up with them, you would move on. But if that person found someone first, you may try to go and get them back. They are not longer available and it makes you upset. That is life, you can never have what you want, so get over it and move on.
the challenge
I feel the same way I love someone right now but cant have them because they love someone else. Witch suks because they don't even treat them right
I dunno, I usually just get over stuff like that. Life's too short to spend it whining and moping about. There are plenty of people who will love you back.
You like sluts. Sucks to be you.
Sucks right...
We always think we want what we can't have. Then we get it and find out we didn't want it after all. It's just our nature
I think it's because the more time and energy you invest in a project, the more unwilling you become to admit defeat. All that time and energy just waisted
people always want what they cant have. It makes it more challenging. The thrill of the chase. But in the end you only wind up hurting yourself. Find someone that will love you back don't waste your time on someone that don't.
Why you can't have it,? is it married or Just doesn't like you. it depends., If is married you shouldn't be getting into destroying couples/families, and if it single just be there for it sooner or latter it will notice you if you are a true friend and love her/him with out been selffish. God luck!
It just happens that way. We never really know why. Don't worry, later on u'll know that that person wasn't the right one 4 u.
yeah Iam tryin to figure out the same thing....i think thats its really annoying how they do that,thats why I don't let love get into me sometimes,love gets in the way of every thing.
Excellent question Ajay, i ask me the same :)
What's the deal with loving someone who doesn't love you?Why do we LOVE the ones we cant have?
Human nature, the grass is always greener, the forbidden sweet tastes sweeter,The moment you say don't, people can't help but do We are contrary creatures Good luck and God blessWhy do we LOVE the ones we cant have?
That is human life, we always want what he can not have. If you loved someone and you lost the love between you two and you broke up with them, you would move on. But if that person found someone first, you may try to go and get them back. They are not longer available and it makes you upset. That is life, you can never have what you want, so get over it and move on.
the challenge
I feel the same way I love someone right now but cant have them because they love someone else. Witch suks because they don't even treat them right
I dunno, I usually just get over stuff like that. Life's too short to spend it whining and moping about. There are plenty of people who will love you back.
You like sluts. Sucks to be you.
Sucks right...
We always think we want what we can't have. Then we get it and find out we didn't want it after all. It's just our nature
I think it's because the more time and energy you invest in a project, the more unwilling you become to admit defeat. All that time and energy just waisted
people always want what they cant have. It makes it more challenging. The thrill of the chase. But in the end you only wind up hurting yourself. Find someone that will love you back don't waste your time on someone that don't.
Why you can't have it,? is it married or Just doesn't like you. it depends., If is married you shouldn't be getting into destroying couples/families, and if it single just be there for it sooner or latter it will notice you if you are a true friend and love her/him with out been selffish. God luck!
It just happens that way. We never really know why. Don't worry, later on u'll know that that person wasn't the right one 4 u.
yeah Iam tryin to figure out the same thing....i think thats its really annoying how they do that,thats why I don't let love get into me sometimes,love gets in the way of every thing.
Excellent question Ajay, i ask me the same :)
How can you deal with unrequitted love?
I hate this so much, I'm so tired, I just want it to end...I hate it, so much...
I'm not vulnerable, so lash out at me if you want, or answer humorously; I need to laugh a little today.How can you deal with unrequitted love?
write a sonet like shakespeare wouldHow can you deal with unrequitted love?
What is your question? Maybe someone could help if you elaborate a bit.
10 minutes at a time and --when necessary-- 3 minutes at a time. And keep yourself as busy as possible.web hosting sites pc or mac
I'm not vulnerable, so lash out at me if you want, or answer humorously; I need to laugh a little today.How can you deal with unrequitted love?
write a sonet like shakespeare wouldHow can you deal with unrequitted love?
What is your question? Maybe someone could help if you elaborate a bit.
10 minutes at a time and --when necessary-- 3 minutes at a time. And keep yourself as busy as possible.
Love somebody so much?
How do you deal with love? When your heart stops beating when you know they are thinking about you, when you can't sleep because you're too excited for what's to come. Is it possible to feel something so strong? I am experiencing this for the first time in 18 years, which means my first love =). What are your feelings about love?Love somebody so much?
Yeah, i know exactly what you mean. im in the same boat, but im really shy and everytime i think im ready to do something about it and ask her, i chicken out...Love somebody so much?
its something that everyone wants and people spend a lifetime to find and when they find love its like a miracle
i didn't want to sleep, since reality was so much better than dreams.
Yeah, i know exactly what you mean. im in the same boat, but im really shy and everytime i think im ready to do something about it and ask her, i chicken out...Love somebody so much?
its something that everyone wants and people spend a lifetime to find and when they find love its like a miracle
i didn't want to sleep, since reality was so much better than dreams.
How to deal with loving again?
Idk what to do I loved once and got cheated on and I'm afraid to love again. I really like this guy at my college tho and I'm not sure if I can trust again. I've had trust issues because of my previous relationship as you can see. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I'm afraid of getting hurt a lot since my ex cheated on me many times. I'm sorry if this sounds stupid, but I honestly don't know what to do! Please help.How to deal with loving again?
Hi Mandy, I don't mean to be harsh, and I certainly don't know all the details, but if your ex cheated on you ';many times';, then that was your fault. Why would you stay with someone after he cheated on you once?
The best advice I can give you is not to make the new guy pay for the sins of the old. That's not fair to him, and it won't make for a healthy, happy relationship.
I know it sucks to feel betrayed, but you have to tell yourself that not all guys are like that. With both of the guys I've seriously dated (including my current BF), I made them make me a promise. We promised each other that if we ever developed an attraction to someone else that we would end the relationship with each other before moving on to the other person. After you've reached a comfort level with the new guy (dating exclusively), you might want to have a conversation similar to that with him. He should understand where you're coming from.
You will learn to trust again. It will take time and the right guy to show you they're not all the same, but you will figure out how to do it again. If your new guy is the right guy, he'll work with you until you get to that point. Best of luck to you!How to deal with loving again?
You need to give yourself a chance to be with someone again, but this time be more cautious and don't let anyone bring you down.
I say don't block the next guy's chance.You might just find that right one when you least expect it. You've been hurt before so you know how it feels.You are in control of your heart, not anybody else. It can only feel what you want it to feel. You just need to be more cautious about your decision. But don't chain up your heart when someone just might have the right key for you
the guy tha tyou want to be in a relationship with. tell him%26amp; be straight up of what had happen frm ur last ec. what he did and how many times he has hurt you and stuff. that your scaredd. that you want to forget all bout that and start something new somethign fresh. have trust .becuase if theres no trust then theres no love bbygirl. and be more careful. member once a cheater always a cheater. dpends on how he iss.
Hey honey.. Love isnt child's play.. It should come from heart, its feelings, its romance, its expressions, its just love... Try to think why are you impressed with him.. If its just attraction cut the thought of loving him... If its true love, then by default listen to your heart rather than your mind, your previous experiences etc etc... By the way i m also confused like you, but i mine is quite opposite...LISTEN TO YOUR HEART. Take care:-)
First off, if you have trust issues and they keep you from dating someone exclusively, what's so wrong with just dating around casually? Then you can get to know other guys, see what other guys are like and you will learn the types of guys who seem honest and who seem like players. You're young, you're still in college, you should be dedicating your time to studying and getting thru college instead of settling down with a guy. Go out and have fun with your girlfriends, meet different guys, go out on dates with the ones that you like, see where things take you.
If you want an exclusive monogamous relationship, then you're just going to have to take it slow. Trust isn't something that just happens, you have to build it. It's a process. You may want to let this guy know that you've been hurt before, maybe even tell him specifically what this other guy did to you.
To be honest, Everyone has been hurt. Obviously some people more than others and obviously some people get over things better than others. Only time will make you feel better, but give this new guy the benefit of the doubt and give him a chance.
your going to get hurt many more times trust its life but maybe in life this guy my not hurt you but you have to try it first
Hi Mandy, I don't mean to be harsh, and I certainly don't know all the details, but if your ex cheated on you ';many times';, then that was your fault. Why would you stay with someone after he cheated on you once?
The best advice I can give you is not to make the new guy pay for the sins of the old. That's not fair to him, and it won't make for a healthy, happy relationship.
I know it sucks to feel betrayed, but you have to tell yourself that not all guys are like that. With both of the guys I've seriously dated (including my current BF), I made them make me a promise. We promised each other that if we ever developed an attraction to someone else that we would end the relationship with each other before moving on to the other person. After you've reached a comfort level with the new guy (dating exclusively), you might want to have a conversation similar to that with him. He should understand where you're coming from.
You will learn to trust again. It will take time and the right guy to show you they're not all the same, but you will figure out how to do it again. If your new guy is the right guy, he'll work with you until you get to that point. Best of luck to you!How to deal with loving again?
You need to give yourself a chance to be with someone again, but this time be more cautious and don't let anyone bring you down.
I say don't block the next guy's chance.You might just find that right one when you least expect it. You've been hurt before so you know how it feels.You are in control of your heart, not anybody else. It can only feel what you want it to feel. You just need to be more cautious about your decision. But don't chain up your heart when someone just might have the right key for you
the guy tha tyou want to be in a relationship with. tell him%26amp; be straight up of what had happen frm ur last ec. what he did and how many times he has hurt you and stuff. that your scaredd. that you want to forget all bout that and start something new somethign fresh. have trust .becuase if theres no trust then theres no love bbygirl. and be more careful. member once a cheater always a cheater. dpends on how he iss.
Hey honey.. Love isnt child's play.. It should come from heart, its feelings, its romance, its expressions, its just love... Try to think why are you impressed with him.. If its just attraction cut the thought of loving him... If its true love, then by default listen to your heart rather than your mind, your previous experiences etc etc... By the way i m also confused like you, but i mine is quite opposite...LISTEN TO YOUR HEART. Take care:-)
First off, if you have trust issues and they keep you from dating someone exclusively, what's so wrong with just dating around casually? Then you can get to know other guys, see what other guys are like and you will learn the types of guys who seem honest and who seem like players. You're young, you're still in college, you should be dedicating your time to studying and getting thru college instead of settling down with a guy. Go out and have fun with your girlfriends, meet different guys, go out on dates with the ones that you like, see where things take you.
If you want an exclusive monogamous relationship, then you're just going to have to take it slow. Trust isn't something that just happens, you have to build it. It's a process. You may want to let this guy know that you've been hurt before, maybe even tell him specifically what this other guy did to you.
To be honest, Everyone has been hurt. Obviously some people more than others and obviously some people get over things better than others. Only time will make you feel better, but give this new guy the benefit of the doubt and give him a chance.
your going to get hurt many more times trust its life but maybe in life this guy my not hurt you but you have to try it first
How do I deal with loving my best friend?
okay, here goes...I have a best friend whom I am starting to feel attracted to. He has acted interested in the past but nothing has ever happened because I was too scared to take the chance of losing our frindship. Now he likes this new girl and its breaking my heart. Everything he says he likes about her is all the same things he has stated that I represent too. He tells me shes pretty in the same words he has said I am pretty, her personality is the same as mine, etc. I feel so sad that he wants someone like me but NOT ME. I know I should just take the chance because maybe hes afraid too...but the other nite he said she gives him butterflies and he hasnt felt that in a LONG time...so apparently he doesnt think of me in that way. I am so confused and I dont want my hurt feelings to lead to me pushing him away...but I fear that will happen because I love him and he says he loves me...but its almost like Im not good enough in his eyes...How do I deal with loving my best friend?
I sorta had this same problem except my friend would have left whoever he was with to be with me. In your case I would just keep on being his best friend and wait till this girl messes up. After that's died down start perusing. The only reason why he never got butterflies with you was because you two weren't in a romantic relationship. Friends make the best lovers.How do I deal with loving my best friend?
TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL! he is probably just trying to replace you with her. he probably cant handle the feelings he has for you because you are his best friend. men dont want to ruin relationships like that. you need to assure him that nothing much in the relationship will change if you two were to get together.
sounds tricky - what you have to ask yourself is - do you love this guy enough to risk your friendship? If so - go for it - life is too short to have that regret. If not - then go for it anyway.
Colleen tell him how you feel. You have to take the chance he is not married yet and it is better to tell him now than lose him later. I just lost my best friend that I had fallen in love with because he liked me and I was scared so by the time I found him again it was too late he was married and it broke my heart. Talk to your friend today.
Run I repeat RUN! Don't ruin your life on this loser. He is what is called a PLAYER he enjoys your hurt feelings. This makes him a bum in this old mans eyes
I don't think it has anything to do with being good enough for him so don't start to think like that. It is rather tricky. You can tell him that you have feelings for him and ten push him away or you can keep it to yourself and still push him away. I think you should let him know because it will make you feel better cause at least you let him know the truth. At least you would have tried.
you can ask him if he wont the same thing
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wow!! this is a very tough one.. I can some what agree with what you're feeling but sometimes you need to take a chance to see if things will happen. If you never try for it, you'll always keep asking yourself ';what if?'; It seems he is interested in you and you have known him for a quiet a long time. That's a good things that the two of you know alot of about eachother. I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel.
dont get so down on yourself! if you love him let him know before anythings too late. never bottle up your emotions, or push him away because of them. if you love him, and if you want to be with him, he has to know.
you need to overcome whatever fear of rejection you may have from him, and just be honest.
good luck hun!
Maybe you waited too long that he used to feel butterflies around you but you let him get comfortable so he is going to settle for someone like you but not you. i say just go for it it wont necessarily ruin your friendship
what a shattering one.. you just need to be true to your heart.......it will all fall into place if you be true to your heart
I sorta had this same problem except my friend would have left whoever he was with to be with me. In your case I would just keep on being his best friend and wait till this girl messes up. After that's died down start perusing. The only reason why he never got butterflies with you was because you two weren't in a romantic relationship. Friends make the best lovers.How do I deal with loving my best friend?
TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL! he is probably just trying to replace you with her. he probably cant handle the feelings he has for you because you are his best friend. men dont want to ruin relationships like that. you need to assure him that nothing much in the relationship will change if you two were to get together.
sounds tricky - what you have to ask yourself is - do you love this guy enough to risk your friendship? If so - go for it - life is too short to have that regret. If not - then go for it anyway.
Colleen tell him how you feel. You have to take the chance he is not married yet and it is better to tell him now than lose him later. I just lost my best friend that I had fallen in love with because he liked me and I was scared so by the time I found him again it was too late he was married and it broke my heart. Talk to your friend today.
Run I repeat RUN! Don't ruin your life on this loser. He is what is called a PLAYER he enjoys your hurt feelings. This makes him a bum in this old mans eyes
I don't think it has anything to do with being good enough for him so don't start to think like that. It is rather tricky. You can tell him that you have feelings for him and ten push him away or you can keep it to yourself and still push him away. I think you should let him know because it will make you feel better cause at least you let him know the truth. At least you would have tried.
you can ask him if he wont the same thing
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wow!! this is a very tough one.. I can some what agree with what you're feeling but sometimes you need to take a chance to see if things will happen. If you never try for it, you'll always keep asking yourself ';what if?'; It seems he is interested in you and you have known him for a quiet a long time. That's a good things that the two of you know alot of about eachother. I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel.
dont get so down on yourself! if you love him let him know before anythings too late. never bottle up your emotions, or push him away because of them. if you love him, and if you want to be with him, he has to know.
you need to overcome whatever fear of rejection you may have from him, and just be honest.
good luck hun!
Maybe you waited too long that he used to feel butterflies around you but you let him get comfortable so he is going to settle for someone like you but not you. i say just go for it it wont necessarily ruin your friendship
what a shattering one.. you just need to be true to your heart.......it will all fall into place if you be true to your heart
How does having a depressed loved one make you feel?
i have depression, from my dads side of the family genetics, and my mom doesnt understand it. shes supportive, but i always feel like im hurting her. I just never know how to explain it to her, and I know its hard for her to watch me suffer.
sometimes i even get angry that she cant understand, and then i get angry at myself for getting upset with her. its like poison. i hate the way i react and respond, and i hate the hold depression has on me.
Does anyone have stories or experience with people you love dealing with depression? what did they do to ease your worry, or what could they have done?
What can I do for my loved ones while I'm trying to get better (going through countless medications and costing a fortune for dr.s bills, ive been in treatment for 3 years, and it doesnt seem to be going anywhere)How does having a depressed loved one make you feel?
My Mother has suffered from depression most of my life. As a child I didnt know about it, she was very good at COPING for the sake of my sister and I. When we grew up and were out of the house it continued to get worse for her. I guess for me the hardest part is feeling so helpless to do anything useful for her. i cant take it away and it kills me to see her suffering so. My Mothers mother also suffered from it and all 3 of her sisters suffered from it on one level or another. I totally believe that it has to do with genetics. I am sooo sorry for you that your Mother is not more understanding, it might be her pain in the way, you know? This may be hard for you to do, but you have to surround yourself with people that DO get you and do sympathize, you need to focus on your own recovery and not her confusion over your illness. Right now is not the time to ponder what YOU should be doing for your loved ones. You wont get better if you shift your focus. Explain it to them later when you are healthy in mind body and spirit. I truly hope that you are getting quality professional help. Depression is manageable. My Mother is 60 now and she is doing okay, but it took a long time to find the right medication and so on. She also found out only 7 years ago she is diabetic, that probably compounded her depression. My Mom probably still needs more psychological help, but she is managing. I wish you the best of luck.How does having a depressed loved one make you feel?
depression isnt real, its just people feeling sorry for themselves. its just stupid people with low esteem
low esteem isnt real either, it is just people feeling sorry for themselves, wanting other people to feel sorry for them and to shower pity on them like a rain shower.
Bless your heart. Depression does hurt, and unfortunately it hurts all involved, even pets. I myself battle depression, sometimes it wins, sometimes I do. I certainly don't have a magic bullet or secret spell. Wish I did, I can certainly relate to your mother and yours relationship. My mother is seldom depressed, she is 68 years old, and happy as a lark most of the time. She doesn't get it either, and makes snide remarks to me all the time. But I'm usually so depressed, they have little effect on me. I take a medication called Zoloft, it has helped, but I don't believe there is a cure. Walking helps me, when I can make myself do it. If you believe in a higher power, this to can help. Sometimes I pray so very hard. Try thinking good thoughts, do something for someone, like take an elderly person that lives alone some flowers, book, or just go and have a glass of tea with them. Ask them for Wisdom, they have lived a long time and may have some worthwhile advice.
You can not control how your mother feels. You can only control how you feel. You will only exacerbate your own depression by feeling guilty about your mom. She is responsible for how she feels when she sees you depressed. Constructively, she could educate herself by reading about depression, what it is, why it happens and what loved ones can do to help someone who is suffering from this illness.
You do not have to explain it to her - she is a grown woman and needs to take control of her life the same as you need to take control of your life.
Depression is very debilitating. You need find out if there is some metabolic reason for your depression. Do you have diabetes? Depression and diabetes often go hand in hand. If you have not had your blood glucose checked lately then perhaps you need to have that done - just to rule out diabetes.
There are things you can do to help manage your depression. If you physician permits it you should seriously consider exercise. Exercise is one of the best methods for controlling depression. Set up an exercise program (with your physicians approval) and stick to it no matter how you feel. Walk, walk, walk. It's good for the soul.
My dad suffered from depression. I didn't need to feel bad or hurt because of it - I needed to do what I could to help him help himself -- after that the rest was up to him and to his doctors.
Remember that depression can be managed. Work with your doctors and know that there is light at the end of that dark tunnel - you just need to find it.
Good luck and do not take on any more guilt - you can't afford it.
I empathize with you on both counts. I have a husband who's bipolar %26amp; 3 daughters with the same illness. It can very extremely frustration dealing with their depression %26amp; manic episodes. Some days are worse than others for my daughter, she really gets seriously depressed, but refuses medication. I try to be supportive %26amp; explain to her that it's basically false emotions brought on by a chemical imbalance in the brain. It's also a matter of finding the right medication a good therapist who can give you tools in dealing with depression. There should be a free mental health unit in your area who can give you cognitive behavior therapy %26amp; medications to you at little or no cost. Mental illness does typically run in families, so it wouldn't hurt to get the family involved in group therapy. I've been in therapy several times outpatient %26amp; inpatient. I've learned so much %26amp; have the tools to deal with depression, anger, anxiety, etc. It's a matter of changing the way you think %26amp; reprogram your mind to thing positively, rather than negativity. This helps with a therapist %26amp; medication, if needed. Rememeber happiness is a choice. Love yourself %26amp; get help. Also be extremely frank with your doctors %26amp; therapists. Good luch %26amp; be happy.
Whatever you do, don't listen to people like Ruthie P!! She's the one who's stupid. It's uneducated people like her who make it worse. As far as self-esteem, I think that she has a little too much of it and should seek help herself. It's really easy to criticize when you don't know what you're talking about or if you've never been through it...and if you don't know what you're talking about, you should keep your mouth shut.
I've been through it and I know it's really hard. As far as your family, just do your best. Sometimes it's hard just getting out of bed in the morning and I hope that your family can understand that. I know it's hard on them too, but you shouldn't feel guilty about it...it's not like you're doing it on purpose, you have a legitimate medical illness. Get whatever help and support you can from doctors, friends, family, etc. I hope you feel better soon. Best of luck.
I am sorry to hear that you and your family is in so much pain. If your current meds are not working, have you discussed this with your doctor? Have you considered changing doctors? There are numerous antidepressants today and it is tricky to get the right dosage. Have you thought about psychotherapy in conjunction with the meds. Family therapy? That can be very helpful. There are agencies that offer a sliding scale to those who are eligible.
Pamphlets can be obtained from Alliance for the Mentally Ill or from your doctor that have advice on how the family can support you. Best wishes.
Yes, depression is incredibly real, and it's incredibly painful to watch and to experience. I really hope that your treatment does get somewhere... often, it just takes time.
I, myself, have a sister who has been diagnosed w/ schizoaffective (generally speaking, a combo of bipolar w/ some schizophrenic qualities). It's very difficult to watch her suffer because I know that ultimately it is not her fault for doing the things that she does, feeling the way she does, and being where she is [jobless, few friends]. She refuses to take medication, which is a common problem for patients in this category because they often believe nothing is ';wrong,'; but it's often frustrating because perhaps the medication can provide some sort of relief for us (the family) and her.
This situation has been something I've been dealing with all my life and has affected me in many profound ways. It has in many ways shaped the person I am today and has influenced the way I have planned for my future. I've made cried, I've made sacrifices... But I do not and will not blame my sister for the effect she has had on me... because above all, I love her with all my heart, and I will do anything to make sure that she will get better. If she experiences even a second of happiness, it makes my day a million times better; if she does something uncharacterstically good, I feel proud because I know in some way she is trying. The thing I hold onto the most is hope - hope that she will get better, and everytime I see these shining moments, I feel my hope being restored.
Hang in there. Your mom is probably just confused because depression in itself often breeds from complex circumstances. But don't feel like you are the one to blame. I'm sure she knows you are trying, and that is all the matters :) stay hopeful!
Ignore people like Ruthie who are obviously Tom Cruise's followers and don't know what the #$% they are talking about.
Depression is an illness....and living at a time like this one doesn't help either. Don't feel guilty about feeling bad...I know what you mean though.....I hope things get better for you, I really do.
sometimes i even get angry that she cant understand, and then i get angry at myself for getting upset with her. its like poison. i hate the way i react and respond, and i hate the hold depression has on me.
Does anyone have stories or experience with people you love dealing with depression? what did they do to ease your worry, or what could they have done?
What can I do for my loved ones while I'm trying to get better (going through countless medications and costing a fortune for dr.s bills, ive been in treatment for 3 years, and it doesnt seem to be going anywhere)How does having a depressed loved one make you feel?
My Mother has suffered from depression most of my life. As a child I didnt know about it, she was very good at COPING for the sake of my sister and I. When we grew up and were out of the house it continued to get worse for her. I guess for me the hardest part is feeling so helpless to do anything useful for her. i cant take it away and it kills me to see her suffering so. My Mothers mother also suffered from it and all 3 of her sisters suffered from it on one level or another. I totally believe that it has to do with genetics. I am sooo sorry for you that your Mother is not more understanding, it might be her pain in the way, you know? This may be hard for you to do, but you have to surround yourself with people that DO get you and do sympathize, you need to focus on your own recovery and not her confusion over your illness. Right now is not the time to ponder what YOU should be doing for your loved ones. You wont get better if you shift your focus. Explain it to them later when you are healthy in mind body and spirit. I truly hope that you are getting quality professional help. Depression is manageable. My Mother is 60 now and she is doing okay, but it took a long time to find the right medication and so on. She also found out only 7 years ago she is diabetic, that probably compounded her depression. My Mom probably still needs more psychological help, but she is managing. I wish you the best of luck.How does having a depressed loved one make you feel?
depression isnt real, its just people feeling sorry for themselves. its just stupid people with low esteem
low esteem isnt real either, it is just people feeling sorry for themselves, wanting other people to feel sorry for them and to shower pity on them like a rain shower.
Bless your heart. Depression does hurt, and unfortunately it hurts all involved, even pets. I myself battle depression, sometimes it wins, sometimes I do. I certainly don't have a magic bullet or secret spell. Wish I did, I can certainly relate to your mother and yours relationship. My mother is seldom depressed, she is 68 years old, and happy as a lark most of the time. She doesn't get it either, and makes snide remarks to me all the time. But I'm usually so depressed, they have little effect on me. I take a medication called Zoloft, it has helped, but I don't believe there is a cure. Walking helps me, when I can make myself do it. If you believe in a higher power, this to can help. Sometimes I pray so very hard. Try thinking good thoughts, do something for someone, like take an elderly person that lives alone some flowers, book, or just go and have a glass of tea with them. Ask them for Wisdom, they have lived a long time and may have some worthwhile advice.
You can not control how your mother feels. You can only control how you feel. You will only exacerbate your own depression by feeling guilty about your mom. She is responsible for how she feels when she sees you depressed. Constructively, she could educate herself by reading about depression, what it is, why it happens and what loved ones can do to help someone who is suffering from this illness.
You do not have to explain it to her - she is a grown woman and needs to take control of her life the same as you need to take control of your life.
Depression is very debilitating. You need find out if there is some metabolic reason for your depression. Do you have diabetes? Depression and diabetes often go hand in hand. If you have not had your blood glucose checked lately then perhaps you need to have that done - just to rule out diabetes.
There are things you can do to help manage your depression. If you physician permits it you should seriously consider exercise. Exercise is one of the best methods for controlling depression. Set up an exercise program (with your physicians approval) and stick to it no matter how you feel. Walk, walk, walk. It's good for the soul.
My dad suffered from depression. I didn't need to feel bad or hurt because of it - I needed to do what I could to help him help himself -- after that the rest was up to him and to his doctors.
Remember that depression can be managed. Work with your doctors and know that there is light at the end of that dark tunnel - you just need to find it.
Good luck and do not take on any more guilt - you can't afford it.
I empathize with you on both counts. I have a husband who's bipolar %26amp; 3 daughters with the same illness. It can very extremely frustration dealing with their depression %26amp; manic episodes. Some days are worse than others for my daughter, she really gets seriously depressed, but refuses medication. I try to be supportive %26amp; explain to her that it's basically false emotions brought on by a chemical imbalance in the brain. It's also a matter of finding the right medication a good therapist who can give you tools in dealing with depression. There should be a free mental health unit in your area who can give you cognitive behavior therapy %26amp; medications to you at little or no cost. Mental illness does typically run in families, so it wouldn't hurt to get the family involved in group therapy. I've been in therapy several times outpatient %26amp; inpatient. I've learned so much %26amp; have the tools to deal with depression, anger, anxiety, etc. It's a matter of changing the way you think %26amp; reprogram your mind to thing positively, rather than negativity. This helps with a therapist %26amp; medication, if needed. Rememeber happiness is a choice. Love yourself %26amp; get help. Also be extremely frank with your doctors %26amp; therapists. Good luch %26amp; be happy.
Whatever you do, don't listen to people like Ruthie P!! She's the one who's stupid. It's uneducated people like her who make it worse. As far as self-esteem, I think that she has a little too much of it and should seek help herself. It's really easy to criticize when you don't know what you're talking about or if you've never been through it...and if you don't know what you're talking about, you should keep your mouth shut.
I've been through it and I know it's really hard. As far as your family, just do your best. Sometimes it's hard just getting out of bed in the morning and I hope that your family can understand that. I know it's hard on them too, but you shouldn't feel guilty about it...it's not like you're doing it on purpose, you have a legitimate medical illness. Get whatever help and support you can from doctors, friends, family, etc. I hope you feel better soon. Best of luck.
I am sorry to hear that you and your family is in so much pain. If your current meds are not working, have you discussed this with your doctor? Have you considered changing doctors? There are numerous antidepressants today and it is tricky to get the right dosage. Have you thought about psychotherapy in conjunction with the meds. Family therapy? That can be very helpful. There are agencies that offer a sliding scale to those who are eligible.
Pamphlets can be obtained from Alliance for the Mentally Ill or from your doctor that have advice on how the family can support you. Best wishes.
Yes, depression is incredibly real, and it's incredibly painful to watch and to experience. I really hope that your treatment does get somewhere... often, it just takes time.
I, myself, have a sister who has been diagnosed w/ schizoaffective (generally speaking, a combo of bipolar w/ some schizophrenic qualities). It's very difficult to watch her suffer because I know that ultimately it is not her fault for doing the things that she does, feeling the way she does, and being where she is [jobless, few friends]. She refuses to take medication, which is a common problem for patients in this category because they often believe nothing is ';wrong,'; but it's often frustrating because perhaps the medication can provide some sort of relief for us (the family) and her.
This situation has been something I've been dealing with all my life and has affected me in many profound ways. It has in many ways shaped the person I am today and has influenced the way I have planned for my future. I've made cried, I've made sacrifices... But I do not and will not blame my sister for the effect she has had on me... because above all, I love her with all my heart, and I will do anything to make sure that she will get better. If she experiences even a second of happiness, it makes my day a million times better; if she does something uncharacterstically good, I feel proud because I know in some way she is trying. The thing I hold onto the most is hope - hope that she will get better, and everytime I see these shining moments, I feel my hope being restored.
Hang in there. Your mom is probably just confused because depression in itself often breeds from complex circumstances. But don't feel like you are the one to blame. I'm sure she knows you are trying, and that is all the matters :) stay hopeful!
Ignore people like Ruthie who are obviously Tom Cruise's followers and don't know what the #$% they are talking about.
Depression is an illness....and living at a time like this one doesn't help either. Don't feel guilty about feeling bad...I know what you mean though.....I hope things get better for you, I really do.
How to deal with impossible love?
This may sound weird but its true.
I went to the bank last week to open an account and then i meet the most beautiful woman i've ever seen.
And i fall in love hehe
Well, she works at the bank, but i feel nervous to go back there and ask her to go out.
First because, i don't know if she's alredy taken, second, she would call me crazy or what?
What should i do?How to deal with impossible love?
Why is it impossible? Surely you can find something else she can help you with... a new account, on-line banking, etc.
After speaking with her a couple of times, you should be able to discover whether she is involved or even if she's interested.
Good luck.How to deal with impossible love?
Go, what's the worse that she can say? No? Then you're in the same place you were before, so you only have her to gain by going and nothing to lose.
Are you in love with the woman or her beauty? You can go back to the bank introduce yourself, (let her know how you know her, in case she doesn't remember you), and ask her what her status is and tell her why you're asking that. If she's single and not involved with anyone, then ask her out on a non-personal date for a friendly talk. I don't think she would call you crazy, she'll just think you want to ask her out. Be polite, friendly, and serious all at the same time when approaching her. If she declines your invitation, then at least you tried. You will not have to keep wondering and thinking about asking her out. Remember, inner beauty is far more important than outer beauty.
I went to the bank last week to open an account and then i meet the most beautiful woman i've ever seen.
And i fall in love hehe
Well, she works at the bank, but i feel nervous to go back there and ask her to go out.
First because, i don't know if she's alredy taken, second, she would call me crazy or what?
What should i do?How to deal with impossible love?
Why is it impossible? Surely you can find something else she can help you with... a new account, on-line banking, etc.
After speaking with her a couple of times, you should be able to discover whether she is involved or even if she's interested.
Good luck.How to deal with impossible love?
Go, what's the worse that she can say? No? Then you're in the same place you were before, so you only have her to gain by going and nothing to lose.
Are you in love with the woman or her beauty? You can go back to the bank introduce yourself, (let her know how you know her, in case she doesn't remember you), and ask her what her status is and tell her why you're asking that. If she's single and not involved with anyone, then ask her out on a non-personal date for a friendly talk. I don't think she would call you crazy, she'll just think you want to ask her out. Be polite, friendly, and serious all at the same time when approaching her. If she declines your invitation, then at least you tried. You will not have to keep wondering and thinking about asking her out. Remember, inner beauty is far more important than outer beauty.
How do I deal with loving my current BF and the urge of going back to my ex of six years?
Okay, I have a tough situation on my hands and I dont know how to deal. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months now and everyday he tells me i love you and that he wants to be with me forever. Our relationship started out quick really quick, but i dont have a problem with that. before i started dating him i had just ened a relationship with my first boyfriend (my first BF- the one i lost my virginity and innocence to) I had been with him for 6 yrs. the last two years with him were a bit rocky and when I moved out we still kept on talking and seeing each other. then things got worse when he went to jail, so many things came up and i was being attacked by everyone, his family, his friends and some chick that said she was dating him ( it turned out to be that he was sending her love letters from jail).
well he is out of jail and was deported because of his illegal status in the US. he contacted me and asked me how i was doing, i got so excited and happy. I want to go see him soo bad, I want him soo bad, but should i go back to him? and leave my current BF who is so nice and in love with me? I love my current BF but i am not IN love with him, yet..... I loved my ex and i want him but i know i shouldnt go back to him because of all the pain that was caused.
How do i deal with this confusion of loving my BF and urge to go back to my ex.How do I deal with loving my current BF and the urge of going back to my ex of six years?
noooo....you should seriously stay with the one your with now. that other guy seems all wrong....come on think about the flaws, his flaws. he was in prison, he was basically cheating on you or did cheat on you, and also you might feel more connected to him just because he was your first. im thinking that you would probably end up regreting it somewhere down the road if you got back with that guy...it seems to problematic...think very very carefully about everything...think about all the good things and the bad things that have and are happening with the guy your currently going with and compare that to all the good and bad things that have happened with your ex...even if you had a better time with the ex i still think you would be very unwise to get back with him. this guy your with now seems the better choice, if he truly does love you and everything...come on plus that other dude was deported! just think of all the bad things that happened concerning the ex and realize that if hes cheated on you or something that he is probably or at least more likely to do it again.special beauty salons how to grow pomegranate
well he is out of jail and was deported because of his illegal status in the US. he contacted me and asked me how i was doing, i got so excited and happy. I want to go see him soo bad, I want him soo bad, but should i go back to him? and leave my current BF who is so nice and in love with me? I love my current BF but i am not IN love with him, yet..... I loved my ex and i want him but i know i shouldnt go back to him because of all the pain that was caused.
How do i deal with this confusion of loving my BF and urge to go back to my ex.How do I deal with loving my current BF and the urge of going back to my ex of six years?
noooo....you should seriously stay with the one your with now. that other guy seems all wrong....come on think about the flaws, his flaws. he was in prison, he was basically cheating on you or did cheat on you, and also you might feel more connected to him just because he was your first. im thinking that you would probably end up regreting it somewhere down the road if you got back with that guy...it seems to problematic...think very very carefully about everything...think about all the good things and the bad things that have and are happening with the guy your currently going with and compare that to all the good and bad things that have happened with your ex...even if you had a better time with the ex i still think you would be very unwise to get back with him. this guy your with now seems the better choice, if he truly does love you and everything...come on plus that other dude was deported! just think of all the bad things that happened concerning the ex and realize that if hes cheated on you or something that he is probably or at least more likely to do it again.
Dealing with love (mature answers please!)?
I have this problem. I'm 21 years old, and i have had two relationships. My first one started when i was 16 and lasted on and off until I was 20. I was devastated when we would break up because I thought he was ';the one'; because i felt so much love for him. He would say I love you so much and oh ';we are gonna be together forever'; stuff like that. It took me a long time to get over him. I'm the type of girl that won't date a guy until I feel potential in him being ';the one';. So i finally found this new guy, hes 24 and about to graduate college too. I felt head over heels for him by 2 months, way sooner than my last relationship. We say ';i love you '; all the time and i feel like we have been dating for a year (because of my feelings) when really it has only been 6 months. He'll randomly say ';love of my life'; and such. Well today I brought up marriage and he said he doesnt know if we are suposed to be together forever but that he loves me a lot. And that it has only been 6 months so we can't know for sure yet and that we are still very young. How am I supposed to deal with this? Does this mean i should give up because maybe he doesnt feel the same way? Anyone have any experiences like this?Dealing with love (mature answers please!)?
He adores you and doesn't want to rush things, back off. Just show that you love him and know he loves you, it's only been six months that should be enough for now. When he wants marriage he'll pop the question, now that you've mentioned it, he'll know what you'll say. just focus on the two of you. You can't know after six months that you can live with someone your whole life, i know a couple that have been a couple for two years and they are not married. they live together and know everything about each other. Do you know everything about this guy? Does he really know everything about you? Saying i love you doesn't set up for marriage. Meet family, meet all his friends, introduce him to yours, try staying together on a trip, or if you live together, then just focus on life. whatever you do dont fixate on marriage, it's just not a good idea. Dont give up on him because he doesnt want marriage yet, that would be writing him off. it's not the smartest thing to get married after just six months.Dealing with love (mature answers please!)?
no dont give up like you said you have only been together for six months its still very early days, maybe you arent meant to be together forever but maybe you are only time will tell.
your still very young and in my opinion shouldnt be worrying about marriage.
enjoy yourself whilst your still young cuz it wont last forever
Sounds like you are in a good relationship and that there is nothing really wrong. There is no need to worry about marriage right away, just take your time, get to know each other, spend more time together and eventually you will both be in a better position to marry especially financially and those other things that we tend to forget about when in love. Just enjoy being in your great relationship and things will work out for the both of you.
Well, the problem here is that you're inexperienced. When in a relationship, EVERYONE says stuff like ';love of my life...i'll love you forever...i never felt like this before...etc.'; Don't get me wrong, they mean it at the time (or they think they do) but don't take it to heart just yet. This guy you're with now...sounds like a good guy and he's being honest and respectful of you and the relationship. Only an inexperienced guy would honestly tell you that he wants to get married after 6 months of being with you. It's because when you've had relationships you know that it takes time to really get to know someone and be compatible with them. You can't believe that you can spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE with this person just because you guys have been good for 6 months. People get bored, people change, people grow...a lot of things happen.
Look, you're finally in an adult relationship (which im pretty sure is what you wanted), don't blow it. Enjoy your time with him. Wanting to get married doesn't prove that you love anybody, actually, it kind of shows insecurity that you need the reassurance of marriage. This guy is being realistic which is one of the BEST things you can be in a relationship. Trust me. Let your time with him run its course and see where it takes you...your young, enjoy it.
He adores you and doesn't want to rush things, back off. Just show that you love him and know he loves you, it's only been six months that should be enough for now. When he wants marriage he'll pop the question, now that you've mentioned it, he'll know what you'll say. just focus on the two of you. You can't know after six months that you can live with someone your whole life, i know a couple that have been a couple for two years and they are not married. they live together and know everything about each other. Do you know everything about this guy? Does he really know everything about you? Saying i love you doesn't set up for marriage. Meet family, meet all his friends, introduce him to yours, try staying together on a trip, or if you live together, then just focus on life. whatever you do dont fixate on marriage, it's just not a good idea. Dont give up on him because he doesnt want marriage yet, that would be writing him off. it's not the smartest thing to get married after just six months.Dealing with love (mature answers please!)?
no dont give up like you said you have only been together for six months its still very early days, maybe you arent meant to be together forever but maybe you are only time will tell.
your still very young and in my opinion shouldnt be worrying about marriage.
enjoy yourself whilst your still young cuz it wont last forever
Sounds like you are in a good relationship and that there is nothing really wrong. There is no need to worry about marriage right away, just take your time, get to know each other, spend more time together and eventually you will both be in a better position to marry especially financially and those other things that we tend to forget about when in love. Just enjoy being in your great relationship and things will work out for the both of you.
Well, the problem here is that you're inexperienced. When in a relationship, EVERYONE says stuff like ';love of my life...i'll love you forever...i never felt like this before...etc.'; Don't get me wrong, they mean it at the time (or they think they do) but don't take it to heart just yet. This guy you're with now...sounds like a good guy and he's being honest and respectful of you and the relationship. Only an inexperienced guy would honestly tell you that he wants to get married after 6 months of being with you. It's because when you've had relationships you know that it takes time to really get to know someone and be compatible with them. You can't believe that you can spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE with this person just because you guys have been good for 6 months. People get bored, people change, people grow...a lot of things happen.
Look, you're finally in an adult relationship (which im pretty sure is what you wanted), don't blow it. Enjoy your time with him. Wanting to get married doesn't prove that you love anybody, actually, it kind of shows insecurity that you need the reassurance of marriage. This guy is being realistic which is one of the BEST things you can be in a relationship. Trust me. Let your time with him run its course and see where it takes you...your young, enjoy it.
How to deal with forbidden love?
I am in loved with a friend of mine. She doesn't know how much I love her. I just keep it as a secret because it is forbidden; very much forbidden. At first, I never thought that I would fall for a person like her since she was not my type then. I can now feel that she also has feelings for me. She is obvious because she is lonely whenever I don't talk to her. She finds way to talk to me and even it is nonsense, she is still talking to me. She also gives me some presents which she was not used to do before. What am I supposed to do? Shall I fight for her even if my whole world is against it?How to deal with forbidden love?
This is my advice. When I need to say something to someone and I don't really know if I can do it face to face, I tend to either send letters or just casually correspond through e-mail. Do you all have personal e-mail addresses? Sometimes it is alot easier to tell someone how you feel or even to ask someone how they feel through words. I think she may like you and you know you like her, all you need is that little push. If you have no problems with talking, then talk to her. I think you may be afraid since you all were friends first and you don't want to ';ruin'; the friendship by bringing up these emotional feelings. If you decide that you want to tell her, keep in mind that she may be waiting for you to say something. Go for it! Nothing is worse than never knowing.How to deal with forbidden love?
forbidden because it's a friend's girlfriend? is there something we should know more about?
Being happy is a top priority in life, there's nothing wrong with being happy. No one EVER has the right to take away your simple happiness. If being happy means being with the one who you are growing closer and closer to, then there should be no reason for you not to be with that person.
You say forbidden love, thus I presume she is married. If that is the case you need to back off. If her husband finds out he could divorce her and take everything she has. I mean if you and she did anything. If on the other hand she divorces him you would be free to tell her how you feel.
This is my advice. When I need to say something to someone and I don't really know if I can do it face to face, I tend to either send letters or just casually correspond through e-mail. Do you all have personal e-mail addresses? Sometimes it is alot easier to tell someone how you feel or even to ask someone how they feel through words. I think she may like you and you know you like her, all you need is that little push. If you have no problems with talking, then talk to her. I think you may be afraid since you all were friends first and you don't want to ';ruin'; the friendship by bringing up these emotional feelings. If you decide that you want to tell her, keep in mind that she may be waiting for you to say something. Go for it! Nothing is worse than never knowing.How to deal with forbidden love?
forbidden because it's a friend's girlfriend? is there something we should know more about?
Being happy is a top priority in life, there's nothing wrong with being happy. No one EVER has the right to take away your simple happiness. If being happy means being with the one who you are growing closer and closer to, then there should be no reason for you not to be with that person.
You say forbidden love, thus I presume she is married. If that is the case you need to back off. If her husband finds out he could divorce her and take everything she has. I mean if you and she did anything. If on the other hand she divorces him you would be free to tell her how you feel.
Where can i find information about how to deal with teenage love?
Well this is interesting - if anything teenage love can be stronger than ';adult'; love from my experience. Love is love, teenage or not. The only thing that can help someone ';deal with it'; is experience - even that doesn't help sometimes.
Understanding love is helpful - our bodies undergo physical and chemical changes when we fall in love and these processes are overpowering. They release endorphins that make you feel euphoric. There's no defense against this - you're more blind to problems and accepting and feel good with this person. Eventually this wears off and then love becomes a behaviour and a choice. That's when you need something there beyond the physical - an established relationship to make it last.
Good luck with your search.Where can i find information about how to deal with teenage love?
how old r u and if ur in middle its not hard 2 get in love but if ur in high then is more complicated ur best bet is 2 find some one that likes u for who u r and not for ur looks!Where can i find information about how to deal with teenage love?
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well if u need help on teenage love u can either ask ur mother or father or buy books on it or email me at www. mz.sexylady07@yahoo.com or www. jynx_a_boo@yahoo.com and i can help u further and u'll b r rite.
Theres no way to deal with teenage love. Everyone goes through it and gets their heart broken a couple of times during it but at the end of it its all part of growing up and becoming a stronger person
Understanding love is helpful - our bodies undergo physical and chemical changes when we fall in love and these processes are overpowering. They release endorphins that make you feel euphoric. There's no defense against this - you're more blind to problems and accepting and feel good with this person. Eventually this wears off and then love becomes a behaviour and a choice. That's when you need something there beyond the physical - an established relationship to make it last.
Good luck with your search.Where can i find information about how to deal with teenage love?
how old r u and if ur in middle its not hard 2 get in love but if ur in high then is more complicated ur best bet is 2 find some one that likes u for who u r and not for ur looks!Where can i find information about how to deal with teenage love?
google search it
GOOGLE.
solves everyones questions
well if u need help on teenage love u can either ask ur mother or father or buy books on it or email me at www. mz.sexylady07@yahoo.com or www. jynx_a_boo@yahoo.com and i can help u further and u'll b r rite.
Theres no way to deal with teenage love. Everyone goes through it and gets their heart broken a couple of times during it but at the end of it its all part of growing up and becoming a stronger person
I always have to adjust my love tires before sitting on a chair?
I mean I always have to hold them up before sitting otherwise they will get crushed under my thighs.
Does this happen to you too?
How do you deal with your love tires?I always have to adjust my love tires before sitting on a chair?
I might suggest that you wear a Jock Strap with your underwear if you wear boxers ... or try wearing briefs or boxer briefs ... Good Luck !!I always have to adjust my love tires before sitting on a chair?
Exercise is probably the best thing you could do for yourself right now. Your tires sound like they are a little flat.
I'd lose some weight so you don't have to hold parts out of the way.
Does this happen to you too?
How do you deal with your love tires?I always have to adjust my love tires before sitting on a chair?
I might suggest that you wear a Jock Strap with your underwear if you wear boxers ... or try wearing briefs or boxer briefs ... Good Luck !!I always have to adjust my love tires before sitting on a chair?
Exercise is probably the best thing you could do for yourself right now. Your tires sound like they are a little flat.
I'd lose some weight so you don't have to hold parts out of the way.
How does one deal with tough love?
there are people who care about me and I know they do but sometimes they practice this ';tough love'; and are really harsh with the intent of changing my opinion/etc. however this doesn't help it makes it all worse. I don't know how to handle it anymore it hurts and scars me emotionally. I've tried telling them this but it doesn't stop and I doubt it would... so... please give an idea of what I can do to handle it..How does one deal with tough love?
you need to learn how to take constructive criticism.
first you need to not only realize but understand as well that who ever these people are dishing out all this tough love towards you aren't telling you anything to deliberately hurt you.
once you understand that it's only for your good, you'll need to identify the part of it all that 's helpful to you.
and last but not at all least give thanks to those who care enough to be tough with you, because life is not easy, so why should the answers to it come easy?
just keep in mind that the tough part to the love part is a rock to a mountain.
you need to learn how to take constructive criticism.
first you need to not only realize but understand as well that who ever these people are dishing out all this tough love towards you aren't telling you anything to deliberately hurt you.
once you understand that it's only for your good, you'll need to identify the part of it all that 's helpful to you.
and last but not at all least give thanks to those who care enough to be tough with you, because life is not easy, so why should the answers to it come easy?
just keep in mind that the tough part to the love part is a rock to a mountain.
Waning to learn how to bread?
I am 12 years old and i want to bread dogs when i get older. Like i loving dealing with puppies. I love to learn about animals. I love playing with animals. I would only want to bread chihuahuas and minni Daschunds. So i wanted to know some tips for breading small dogs like there cycle and the serious stuff.Waning to learn how to bread?
First of all... it's breed not, bread. Bread is a food that most people make sandwiches with. You should at least know how to spell.
Second, WHY ON EARTH do you think you have what it takes to be a breeder. You are a KID. Do you have time to miss school when your b*tch goes into labor? Can you take off at least a couple of days when the newborn pups arrive?
Why are you breeding? From your previous questions, it looks like you are just breeding your 2 dogs together just for fun. A BYB in the making (backyard breeder).
Do you even have a mentor? Why do you think that your dogs have what it takes to be bred? There are WAAAAYYY too many unwanted puppies in the world for you to go out and produce more carelessly.. You need to at LEAST exhibit your dog in Conformation or performance events to prove that your dog has what it takes to be bred. Do your dogs have health clearances???
I would seriously seriously rethink what you are doing. Ummm there is a lot more to breeding than cute puppies, heat cycles, etc. Breeding is NOT for the faint of heart nor is it something to be taken lightly.
Please, for your dogs' sakes, SPAY and NEUTER! Sounds like two pet quality dogs that would NEVER be considered for breeding by real reputable breeders...Waning to learn how to bread?
Please read the posted article on chihuahua breeding.graphics animation hair dryer
First of all... it's breed not, bread. Bread is a food that most people make sandwiches with. You should at least know how to spell.
Second, WHY ON EARTH do you think you have what it takes to be a breeder. You are a KID. Do you have time to miss school when your b*tch goes into labor? Can you take off at least a couple of days when the newborn pups arrive?
Why are you breeding? From your previous questions, it looks like you are just breeding your 2 dogs together just for fun. A BYB in the making (backyard breeder).
Do you even have a mentor? Why do you think that your dogs have what it takes to be bred? There are WAAAAYYY too many unwanted puppies in the world for you to go out and produce more carelessly.. You need to at LEAST exhibit your dog in Conformation or performance events to prove that your dog has what it takes to be bred. Do your dogs have health clearances???
I would seriously seriously rethink what you are doing. Ummm there is a lot more to breeding than cute puppies, heat cycles, etc. Breeding is NOT for the faint of heart nor is it something to be taken lightly.
Please, for your dogs' sakes, SPAY and NEUTER! Sounds like two pet quality dogs that would NEVER be considered for breeding by real reputable breeders...Waning to learn how to bread?
Please read the posted article on chihuahua breeding.
I always have to adjust my love tires before sitting on a chair?
I mean I always have to hold them up before sitting otherwise they will get crushed under my thighs.
Does this happen to you too?
How do you deal with your love tires?I always have to adjust my love tires before sitting on a chair?
I might suggest that you wear a Jock Strap with your underwear if you wear boxers ... or try wearing briefs or boxer briefs ... Good Luck !!I always have to adjust my love tires before sitting on a chair?
Exercise is probably the best thing you could do for yourself right now. Your tires sound like they are a little flat.
I'd lose some weight so you don't have to hold parts out of the way.
Does this happen to you too?
How do you deal with your love tires?I always have to adjust my love tires before sitting on a chair?
I might suggest that you wear a Jock Strap with your underwear if you wear boxers ... or try wearing briefs or boxer briefs ... Good Luck !!I always have to adjust my love tires before sitting on a chair?
Exercise is probably the best thing you could do for yourself right now. Your tires sound like they are a little flat.
I'd lose some weight so you don't have to hold parts out of the way.
How does one deal with tough love?
there are people who care about me and I know they do but sometimes they practice this ';tough love'; and are really harsh with the intent of changing my opinion/etc. however this doesn't help it makes it all worse. I don't know how to handle it anymore it hurts and scars me emotionally. I've tried telling them this but it doesn't stop and I doubt it would... so... please give an idea of what I can do to handle it..How does one deal with tough love?
you need to learn how to take constructive criticism.
first you need to not only realize but understand as well that who ever these people are dishing out all this tough love towards you aren't telling you anything to deliberately hurt you.
once you understand that it's only for your good, you'll need to identify the part of it all that 's helpful to you.
and last but not at all least give thanks to those who care enough to be tough with you, because life is not easy, so why should the answers to it come easy?
just keep in mind that the tough part to the love part is a rock to a mountain.
you need to learn how to take constructive criticism.
first you need to not only realize but understand as well that who ever these people are dishing out all this tough love towards you aren't telling you anything to deliberately hurt you.
once you understand that it's only for your good, you'll need to identify the part of it all that 's helpful to you.
and last but not at all least give thanks to those who care enough to be tough with you, because life is not easy, so why should the answers to it come easy?
just keep in mind that the tough part to the love part is a rock to a mountain.
Waning to learn how to bread?
I am 12 years old and i want to bread dogs when i get older. Like i loving dealing with puppies. I love to learn about animals. I love playing with animals. I would only want to bread chihuahuas and minni Daschunds. So i wanted to know some tips for breading small dogs like there cycle and the serious stuff.Waning to learn how to bread?
First of all... it's breed not, bread. Bread is a food that most people make sandwiches with. You should at least know how to spell.
Second, WHY ON EARTH do you think you have what it takes to be a breeder. You are a KID. Do you have time to miss school when your b*tch goes into labor? Can you take off at least a couple of days when the newborn pups arrive?
Why are you breeding? From your previous questions, it looks like you are just breeding your 2 dogs together just for fun. A BYB in the making (backyard breeder).
Do you even have a mentor? Why do you think that your dogs have what it takes to be bred? There are WAAAAYYY too many unwanted puppies in the world for you to go out and produce more carelessly.. You need to at LEAST exhibit your dog in Conformation or performance events to prove that your dog has what it takes to be bred. Do your dogs have health clearances???
I would seriously seriously rethink what you are doing. Ummm there is a lot more to breeding than cute puppies, heat cycles, etc. Breeding is NOT for the faint of heart nor is it something to be taken lightly.
Please, for your dogs' sakes, SPAY and NEUTER! Sounds like two pet quality dogs that would NEVER be considered for breeding by real reputable breeders...Waning to learn how to bread?
Please read the posted article on chihuahua breeding.
First of all... it's breed not, bread. Bread is a food that most people make sandwiches with. You should at least know how to spell.
Second, WHY ON EARTH do you think you have what it takes to be a breeder. You are a KID. Do you have time to miss school when your b*tch goes into labor? Can you take off at least a couple of days when the newborn pups arrive?
Why are you breeding? From your previous questions, it looks like you are just breeding your 2 dogs together just for fun. A BYB in the making (backyard breeder).
Do you even have a mentor? Why do you think that your dogs have what it takes to be bred? There are WAAAAYYY too many unwanted puppies in the world for you to go out and produce more carelessly.. You need to at LEAST exhibit your dog in Conformation or performance events to prove that your dog has what it takes to be bred. Do your dogs have health clearances???
I would seriously seriously rethink what you are doing. Ummm there is a lot more to breeding than cute puppies, heat cycles, etc. Breeding is NOT for the faint of heart nor is it something to be taken lightly.
Please, for your dogs' sakes, SPAY and NEUTER! Sounds like two pet quality dogs that would NEVER be considered for breeding by real reputable breeders...Waning to learn how to bread?
Please read the posted article on chihuahua breeding.
How to deal with unrequited love when you could have anyone except the one you want?
I always get attention from guys but dont really care about it because they're never my type or whatever but Im always super nice about it (just in case anyone wants to make the karma argument). But what to you do when you finally find one you do want only to have the heartbreak of them not being interested back?How to deal with unrequited love when you could have anyone except the one you want?
You move on, life goes on...though each person deals with heartache differently...
You can't change the other person's mind about it though all you can ask is for them to give you a chance..How to deal with unrequited love when you could have anyone except the one you want?
You accept they aren't interested and move on. Been there/done that. In time (hopefully) you'll cross paths with someone with whom the interest is mutual.
You move on, life goes on...though each person deals with heartache differently...
You can't change the other person's mind about it though all you can ask is for them to give you a chance..How to deal with unrequited love when you could have anyone except the one you want?
You accept they aren't interested and move on. Been there/done that. In time (hopefully) you'll cross paths with someone with whom the interest is mutual.
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