How can i deal with the father of my child resenting me for keeping the child?

I am 3 months pregnant it was unplanned with my boyfriend. we were on a break and of course the feelings were still there and he we had sex and i ended up getting pregnant. and i didnt want to get an abortion so i decided to keep the baby. the father first wouldnt talk to me when i told him and screamed at me and blamed me then finally we talked and he apologized and said he was scared and we started talking more about it and he decided he wanted to be with me and i told him no if it was because i was pregnant but he insisted. then everynight he would tell me how i am a C*** and a F***ed up person and im ruining his life and i told him i wasnt going to give in to an abortion and he makes me feel like a total piece of S*** for stepping up and keeping the child. this would happen every night for weeks until finally he got over it started to be there for me and be sensitive to me being sick or upset but all of a sudden he is doing it again but this time he wont even talk to me he ignores me when i ask him to talk about it, he refuses. he has told me that i have ruined all of his relationships with his friends and family. however only one friend knows and he hates me so is mad me and my bf are together and his family has no idea even about it he just pissed them off because of something he did. it seems like everything that happens is blamed on me and our child. but i dont want to end things between us because of our child and because i love him so much we've been together for 3 years. i dont know how to deal with this its like he is slowly persuading me to get an abortion cause i hate this i hate when he treats me like this but i truly love my child so much and he cant understand that. and i cant do this alone.



sorry for it being so longHow can i deal with the father of my child resenting me for keeping the child?
Your main concern now has to be your baby.



I know easier said then done. But you are all that baby has. It will be depending on you to survive.



Please please please dont get an abortion. My best friend had an abortion 8 years ago. (I was also pregnant at the time) She regrets it EVERYDAY and has told me so many many many times. She looks at my son with longing wondering WHAT IF. Please dont do it.



There are also many couples who would love to raise your baby as their own. I have met many adoptive parents who can be at times a better parent than I am to my own kids.



FOLLOW your heart and your mind. Your BF is very abusive. Everything is changing with your body and your emotions. TRUST ME when I say that as soon as you have this baby you will NOT feel so attached to your BF. Right now you want him to want the baby and you want everything to be ok. But you have to be realistic and take today for today.



Plan to raise the baby on your own or to give the baby to someone who will love and care for him/her. If it works out between you and him then great, but dont count on it or him. Besides, you sound like a great person and he sounds very mean. You deserve someone who will treat you and your baby better.



Oh and one last note-if he treats you with disdain he might treat your little one bad also. Your job as a mother is to protect your baby-that is the most important job you have now.



Best wishes.How can i deal with the father of my child resenting me for keeping the child?
';i dont want to end things between us because of our child';



are you kidding?! Do you really think your child deserves to grow p in a family where the father blames everything negative on their existence?? You need to step back and leave that man alone for the time being. if he changes, great. if not, stay away. you owe that much to your child. and you can do it alone. women and men raise children solo everyday!! I've been doing it ALONE since i was 9 weeks pregnant. my son is now 15 months. its not so difficult.
Well, my story wasn't identical, but close enough. Only your boyfriend is being verbally abusive on top of it. I would be leery about him having any contact with the baby.



Needless to say, my son's father and I are no longer together. And my son is better off that way. You will never get over the resentment you will have as a result of him pressuring you to abort. So, you may as well call it quits now. And have a happy life with your child.
Invent a time machine, then go back in time and NOT let him hit it. In a way, you ARE ruining his life. It was just meant to be a quick bang and now you want to turn it into a forever situation.....You chose to spread your legs.
You are a ';F***ed up person'; if you keep talking to this boy.
sweetie My best advice to You is To forget about him and try to move on for you and babies sake you do not need the stress nor do you need a guy in yours or your babies life who is going to treat you that way and also resent his child he will make your guys life hell and you will eventually regret it. Keep your baby if that is what you truly want and don't listen to him or anyone else about an abortion its your baby to and your body so it's more your choice then any ones. He will never change if anything guys like this tend to get worse and completely run away or just be abusive to you and their child then eventually run away. You can find a guy who loves you and will treat you and your soon to be child right and it is possible and ok to Be a single mommy it can be harder at times but you can get threw it! I know you love this guy and have been together a long time but i say it is time to move on. Also trust me it will be harder to move on when your pregnant and hormonal vs when baby comes so hang in there! I was in a situation similar to yours At one time and i understand how hard it is and what your going threw but trust me it does get better! Also Men like this never change! And it is not your fault he is this way or being this way.