Monday, December 12, 2011

How do you deal with people that love to copy you?

I don't just mean copy you in little things such as buying the same things as you, but copying your entire personality. I have a ';friend'; that is stealing my personality and views on every issue. i know they wern't like this before, but the more im near my group of friends, the more this one idiot friend keeps copying me and its so annoying and it makes me angry. people say we look like brothers because he keeps copying the way i look even. ahhhhhhhhh F*%26amp;K himHow do you deal with people that love to copy you?
Think of it as flattery. I had a girl like this in high school. I was not a preppy person in high school and she was. She went from preppy to trying to be me. I was a tomboy and hung out with a lot of guys, played sports, etc. I was not worried about these guys as anything more. She tried to like me. You cannot go preppy to tomboyish over night. Was not like she could hang either. But, it is a fact of life. People are going to try copying you and yes it does get annoying. But these people admire you and wish they were more like you. You have something that they do not have. People are going to copay you from something little to something extreme. You could always use this to your advantage.How do you deal with people that love to copy you?
Be more spontaneous. If he can never guess what you're going to do next, he won't be able to copy you. Or, you could pull him aside and tell him you feel he's copying you, and even though it's flattering, you really think he should be himself.
Instead of expressing your real opinions you can say random things that don't make sense, dress like PeeWee Herman and take up a new hobby like moonwalking. Then when your friend tries to copy you he will come to regret it, hopefully.
1 you could tell him to f**k off and get his own personality



2 lie to him about your views on something, make it so that if he tells someone its his own view they would be apalled and look down on him for it.



3 about the looks: tell him your going to dye your hair luminous pink, then get one of those temporary hair colour sprays and wait till he dyes his hair then wash out the spray
A copy is never as good as the original. And people will notice the difference. Try to ignore him.



(Though I do like the idea about the temporary pink hair.)
wow. its kind of flattering but kind of annoying at the same time, isn't it? its normal for friends to take on like things..... styles, wording of things, interests..... thats a matter of influence within your social group; its totally normal;

but i know what you mean...... it's like, everything that makes you, ';you';... they totally copy. and it ends up making you look bad and so on. and you do care about them as a friend, you just wish they'd stop becasue its causing anxiety and making you look bad.......arrguh *sighs* it's enough to make you want to rip your eyes out with a salad fork.

idk what to tell you...... i've tried to gently point out the good things about them that makes them unique, and hope they see thier own value and uniqueness so they'll stop..... idk that its worked so entirely well yet..... but heres to hoping.

sidebar: if you do find a solution, can you email it to me? lol i'm being driven up a wall here...... lol

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