How to deal being in love with a mans wife?

she has 3 kids 14 13 n 10 year old n she not happy with her man.i been with her for over 2 yrs we are having a hard time with dealing with this.it might end real bad for us.i;m too close to her n in love with her but having hard time letting her go. n having hard time trusting herHow to deal being in love with a mans wife?
Why would you trust her? she's already cheating on her husband. Forget about her. Find someone your own age - you sound young and immature.How to deal being in love with a mans wife?
You can't trust her, she cheated on her husband she'll cheat on you.
Not to judge, but thats a pretty jacked-up situation you got yourself into.

Your playin' with FIRE. Good luck with that.
so what exactly are you asking? i think the answer is obivious...youre in love with a married woman who you are having an affair with? you're not getting my permission to continue. wow, the word selfish comes to mind.
You both are perfect for each other. You are both horrible people
Why do you say it will end bad? She is not willing to leave her husband? Please man, more details, ok! And why are you having a hard time trusting her? Do you think she is using you?
your wrong for being with another mans wife she is wrong for cheating on him. They are not happy means they are going through hard times if she cheated on him then she will do the same with you. Find another woman she is taken show some humility.
first of all had it not happened.

second , if she is in problem then she is the best person for what to do . if she is not good with her husband ,she must settle the divorce .

you must wait for that happen .after that you see her behavior and decide the future.

third ,if you are young then ,please try to go away from this all situation . God had great things to do for you other than this .

fourth, always observe the persons logically not emotionally .

hope it will help you.
Sorry but you brought it all on yourself you two should be together you both are deceitful and selfish people.
OKAY... let's really talk reality!



Two years is a significant emotional investment. That is why you are having problems now... the ';letting go'; and the ';trust issues';. It is a catch 22. What is happening is very stressful and that takes it's toll. It is going to stay the ';status quo'; until the bottom falls out. What you are sensing and reacting to is.... the bottom begining to fall out!



There is a great amount of dysfunction built into this and it is very complex. The kids alone are a major factor. She needs to get healthier BEFORE anything can move forward and that involves risk taking for her and the kids. That probably takes more energy than she can muster at this point. This is what it is...it can't be more than a dream at this point.



If you want to be realistic...go make an appointment with a good therapist (non-judgmental)... and put it all out on the table. Be willing to listen carefully and hear all points and even what you might not want to hear. You are suffering... and you need to do some self preservation... maybe pull back just a little to catch your breath and get a fresh look.



It will be money well spent... you need to learn some things about yourself that will be amazing!
WELL IM SORRY TO HEAR THIS BUT I THINK U KNEW THIS WAS GONNA HAPPEND WHEN U GUYS STARTED HAVING THIS SECRET RELATION SHIP...

THIS MIGHT HURT BOTH OF U'S BUT U JUST HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT...
Hi



Step outside the box ( seriously) and look at it from all angles.



Especially from the children's point of view? How would you feel about a man who did that with your mom behind your father's back?



If you are expecting her to divorce him then come running to you -think again. there will not be a happy family get together in the future between you and her kids. They will resent you -possibly detest you.

You will always be enemy #1 in their minds. Don't kid yourself into thinking they won't find out -they will.



If you are already feeling insecure about trusting her -then you need to let go and get far away.



There will ALWAYS be a seed of doubt looming in the back of your mind about her commitment to you.



You will always wonder whats she is doing when she goes to see friends -comes home late - goes places without you.



Even the simplest things will make you paranoid. It will mentally destroy you and ultimately the relationship. You guys don't even live together now -and your suspicious???? What does that say to you?



The best way to get over her is to take a long trip away from where you live. I don't mean just a few miles -I mean hundreds of miles away.



You need to see the world and meet new people. Make yourself and her totally inaccessible to the other. Go somewhere you have never been or to a place really enjoy. Take a good road trip and clean your head out. Trust me when I say there is better out there -you have been wieghed down with junk too long and forgot about what is out there.



If you can't afford to be gone for weeks -take as many road trips possible on your free time.



Best Wishes
PIECE OF ****!
Walk away. It will be hard but she is married. Find someone single.